Misogynist men are everywhere and we here at Mancheeze see the most vile and vocal of them on a regular basis in the form of Men’s rights ‘activists.’ We also understand that men in general are raised to hate women. From violent pornography to video games, young boys are taught to control and dominate women and orgasm to sexual violence. One look at Nofap forums will inform women of just how many men can’t have sexual relationships with women unless they contain violence and degradation of women
It appears Dalhousie Uni has a huge problem with misogynist men, well a problem that the men didn’t bother to hide. A group of 12 male dentistry students created a ‘Gentleman’s’ page on Facebook where they talked about raping their female classmates by asking such things as ‘Who would you hate fuck?’
A professor showed a film of a woman in a bikini to ‘wake up’ his male students, all the while the female students sat in class, under constant objectification and threat of rape by chloroform. Oh yes, the men joked about it!
The male president of Dalhousie, is telling us he’s going to use restorative justice. What the fuck does that mean? I wonder if the president watches porn or if he finds violating women to be a turn on?
Avalon Sexual Assault Centre wrote a letter to the president and I agree with every word.
These upcoming male dentists are going to put women under sedation if they are allowed to practice dentistry, which is something the chaps joked about on their FB page. Should we release these rapists as health professionals whereby they’ll have access to women under sedation? I think not.
If I were a woman at Dalhousie I’d not stop until these men are booted from the school. If these men ever graduate a dental program the public should know where they are practicing and they should never be allowed to see female clients. Ever.
I will happily publish all the names of these men so if you shoot me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) I will. You have my word that I will not release any information about you. This site is a women’s network whereby we help women who are being targeted and attacked by men’s rights activists. Look in my back postings through the calendar in the sidebar to prove it.
We women have to protect ourselves because we know some male president and his ‘restorative justice’ is just a bunch of meaningless drivel to assuage the public. Unless the president takes action and refuses these men graduation we women have lots of work to do.
Depending on how the president deals with these men, I recommend ad campaigns be run by women’s groups to let all potential female students what will await them at Dalhousie.
Some may think my post harsh but once you do the work that I do, that rape crisis centres do, that women’s shelters do and you come into contact with these misogynists who do anything and everything to harm women, you’ll see I’m correct. I have zero patience with woman-hating men.
They should be denied the benefits of society because they give nothing in return. That’s my motto. If you’re bent on harming people and you think rape is funny you deserve nothing and that’s what you should get. You should be publicly named and shamed.
FYI: there are no links to the CBC even though the CBC covered this in depth because the author is disgusted at how the CBC did nothing in the Jian Ghomeshi case whereby he physically and sexually harassed women and the CBC allowed it to happen. CBC doesn’t protect it’s female employees.
Paul Elam is in a little rage this morning. He was cancelled on CNN, which I can only hope was because of me doing some dutiful tweeting and emailing yesterday. This morning he’s really butthurt and angry so he decided to call all rape victims liars unless they take it to court.
The title of his butthurt misogynist rage piece is ‘Rape accusations are all lies until proven otherwise.’ I’ll spare you the bulk of the rage post. You can read it at the archive link above.
He’s also angry at Zerlina Maxwell who wrote a great piece on why believing a rape victim was much more important than what the accused might go through. In fact, he told other MRA’s he wants to fuck her but only if she doesn’t talk. Classic misogyny right out of the sewer mouth that is Elam.
What’s hilarious about Elam’s fucknuttery is that he doesn’t even realize how a court of law works. You don’t assume the prosecutor is full of shit, which is what Elam suggests you do. By the time a rape case gets to court there’s pretty good evidence already. Elam is such an idiot.
If you notice the number of male supremacist comments on Maxwell’s article you definitely see a trend. Men are starting to understand that women aren’t going to be quiet about rape anymore and that we’re going to find ways to prosecute that are better for us.
I happen to think that the preponderance standard that colleges are now adopting should be used in criminal court since it’s so damned hard to ‘prove’ a rape charge. Male supremacists and rapists know how hard the criminal evidentiary standard is too and they count on it to continue raping women.
It’s the easy woman-blaming path to say rape victims are liars unless they bring it to court because it’s too damned hard to 1) bring to court and then 2) get a conviction. This is why MRA’s use this kind of ‘I don’t believe women unless they go to court’ rhetoric.
Elam might think this isn’t woman hating because oh the poor dear is relying on the law but the law is man-made and obviously not up to par so Elam and other MRA’s will claim it’s the only way for a woman to be believed.
The comment that stands out to me on AVFM is by the British idiot MRA Mike Buchanan of ‘Women are Whiners’ fame.
I think pieces like this will help turn rape from feminists’ #1 asset to their #1 liability.
To think rape is an asset is loopy in and of itself but it’s curious that he’d use the word liability. It IS a truthful word because what MRA’s want to do is reinforce the difficulty in reporting and convicting. They LOVE the system the way it is because it doesn’t work. This is why any woman trying to get justice isn’t going to get it and rape has been a liability for women all along.
As an extra here’s Dean Esmay claiming Zerlina throws black men under the bus while his own friend and commenter at AVFM claims that the only reason Obama won a Nobel was because he was black. Nothing like Dean Esmay making a fool of himself.
Today AVFM announced that CAFE’s Centre for Men and Families needs money to stay open in 2015 and that all donations will be doubled by AVFM. There is no doubt that AVFM funnels money to CAFE and that CAFE is an outpost of AVFM.
Here’s the fundraising video from CAFE, released yesterday. Notice that the man talks about being sodomized by another man and then suddenly, out of nowhere, repeats MRA propaganda about men being blamed for domestic violence. Was he reading off a cue card prepared by Justin Trottier?
I happen to know there are several services for men who’ve been sodomized by other men. I know it because I’ve had to access those services for someone I know. The police took him completely seriously, they instantly referred him to a private counselor who only dealt with male survivors of sodomy. So the claims that there are no male services is BULLSHIT.
Notice how these two people repeat all the propaganda told to them by AVFM and CAFE. It’s really quite astonishing.
I hope CAFE’s Centre closes its doors forever because it’s a misogynist group intent on spreading false statistics and propaganda to blame women for every ill in society and to turn the facts upside down.
When men sit down in a public space and take up 3 seats it’s annoying. It’s not polite either. Having no regard for others in public is what men do so well.
CAFE’s Canadian Centre for Men and Families has some advice for women who don’t like it when men are so fucking entitled they can’t sit properly in public.
Spread your legs.
Listen to these two boneheads from CAFE make sexual innuendo talk about women. Wait, I thought they were about equality? Silly me. They’re just another AVFM outpost of misogyny.
I didn’t make it to the end of the video in my first sitting.
You bet I’m going to focus on CAFE now. Canadian women deserve more than two guys rambling about how women should spread their legs in public and asking for donations to their silly org.
On December 6th we remembered the women murdered by a man at Ecole Polytechnique. He called them feminists. We name the problem: male violence against women in Canada and the world.
This is a warning.
Marc LePine isn’t dead. He’s alive and well within Canadian society in the form of Men’s Rights Activists. LePine thought that feminism was the enemy and swore to defeat it. MRA’s have the same goal and have targeted and abused women all over the world.
The largest website for MRA’s is A Voice for Men, run by Paul Elam, and he has groups already in Canada. In almost every province there are small groups of men affiliated with AVFM and they are dangerous.
They have quite a few slogans at AVFM. One of them is ‘take the red pill,’ a reference to the Matrix movie where Neo takes a red pill and is suddenly made aware of the knowledge he lacked. For the ‘Manosphere’, the red pill is a metaphor for waking up to the fact that men are really the oppressed and women are the oppressor.
Many Canadians might remember the ‘Don’t Be That Guy’ postering campaign by Sexual Assault Voices Edmonton. What started as a great ad to teach men and women about sexual consent turned into a nightmare when MRA’s got wind of it. Members of AVFM tore the posters down and implemented their own ‘Don’t Be That Girl’ posters, which reinforced rape culture and victim blaming. MRA’s think women constantly lie about rape.
As you can see by the MRA t-shirt, their goals are exactly the same as Marc LePine’s only this time, there are more of them and their numbers grow, albeit slowly.
Canadian feminists have to be on particular lookout for Justin Trottier and his CAFE group. They just opened a men’s centre in Toronto and they are affiliated with AVFM. Trottier lied on CAFE’s application for charity status by putting feminist groups on the application that did not approve of a single thing he was doing.
CAFE has been studiously working to undermine Canadian women. Their motto is: Equality is for everyone. This motto is redundant since feminism is precisely that and we know it’s women rather than men who are oppressed due to their sex. They’ve had some of their events cancelled but that’s not enough. They are infecting Canada with everything AVFM stands for.
Here’s a CAFE event from 2012 where you can see many Canadians spreading hatred against women. You may also want to see CAFE’s Youtube channel.
There are several tactics MRA’s are using to harm women. One of them is Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) which is an invented concept used by abusive fathers to get custody of their children. It’s a made up diagnosis to blame mothers and gaslight children. I’m sure if a feminist activist went to CAFE, you’d hear much talk of this fake diagnosis.
Fathers Rights groups, which is a subgroup of MRA’s, attempted to get this ‘diagnosis’ into the DSM. The DSM refused to include it because it’s so outrageous. The syndrome claims mother’s alienate children from their fathers psychologically during and after divorce. If the child doesn’t want to see the father MRA’s and father’s rights activists think the child was manipulated by the mother. This ‘diagnosis’ has been successfully used in some courts. This is going to be a hot topic in CAFE’s Center for Men and Families as well as circumcision, suicide and workplace deaths.
The Centre for Men and Families has a mission statement that includes a couple curious items that distinguish it as a men’s rights group. It states it’s fighting against:
Media, Social and Cultural Misandry and Academic Misandry (e.g. in Gender Studies and Culture Studies programs)
Note the use of the word ‘misandry’, which isn’t actually a concept in our patriarchal culture. The more important point is that that CAFE sees gender studies and cultural studies as male hatred. This is their clear opposition to women’s studies, women’s rights and feminism. They can spruce up the language but it’s there in their statement.
None of these issues have anything to do with feminism but MRA’s are woman haters and so every ill that men suffer is twisted and the blame put on women.
Also curious is this:
We value public policy that flows from fact-led and evidence-based scientific research rather than political or ideological commitment or special interest agenda.
MRA’s have this belief that feminism inflates statistics of rape and domestic violence to harm men. They continually repeat the mantra that feminists are a bunch of ‘gender ideologues’ which is quite funny because feminists that are in any way educated about feminism are opposed to gender.
Equal or ‘Shared’ Parenting is another concept made to guarantee custody to a father who is usually abusive and the National Organization of Women has made an important statement about it. Equal parenting isn’t what you and I think regarding it’s surface meaning. Most couples share custody of their children after divorce. It’s the rare cases of male violence and abuse of women that make it to a bitter custody battle. What MRA’s/father’s rights groups are attempting to do is to get the law to change so that upon divorce custody will be split 50/5o, even if the father is abusive. These fathers use their 50% custody to continue to have their ex-wife close and therefore under his thumb.
‘Male reproductive rights’ is another propaganda key word. What it really means, which Barbara Kay alluded to in her talk, is women being either forced to carry the fetus to term or be forced to abort, depending on what the male wants because male supremacists want men to have a ‘say’ in what women do with their bodies. This is blatant control of women’s reproduction and is something MRA’s and male supremacists are fighting to preserve.
The point is that CAFE’s Centre for Men and Families is an MRA outpost in Toronto from which women will be harmed.
If you listen to Justin Trottier here being interviewed by Dan Perrins from AVFM, you’ll see him tell Dan that male violence against women isn’t really a thing and that women and men are violent at comparable rates which is absolutely false. Don Dutton, a Social Psychologist at UBC supports Trottier’s CAFE and AVFM. He’s done work with male batterers and MRA’s use him as their source for their claims that women are just as violent and are responsible for the violence that men do to them.
CAFE must be monitored closely because it is an extension of AVFM and male supremacist ideologies. Trottier talks a cool game but make no mistake, if he’s willing to lie to get charity status in Canada, then he’s capable of anything.
At the moment we are volunteering our time and resources to FTSU.
FTSU is the acronym for ‘fuck their (feminists) shit up.’ I’m telling you, these men are the new Marc LePine’s. Once they get a hold of a woman they can harass online and offline, they’ll do it.
This is what happened to Philosophy professor Adele Mercier from Queen’s University. She corrected a statistical comment by an MRA on the Queen’s journal and within 48 hours MRA’s emailed her superiors and postered the Queen’s campus with pictures of Adele calling her a rape apologist.
Danielle D’Entremont was physically attacked by a man after opposing a Men’s group on Queen’s Uni campus. When MRA’s found out about the attack they stalked her, phoned the police station to find out about her case. They harassed her mercilessly.
Prior to the first MRA conference in Michigan, they singled out a feminist protestor Emma Howland Bolton and attacked her as well.
Finally, feminist media critic Anita Sarkeesian received a death threat referencing LePine and ‘Montreal-style massacre’ if she dared speak on a Utah university campus.
MRA’s want all Canadian Universities to have men’s centres to spread their propaganda. Simon Fraser University was the site of a fierce debate because most students thought a men’s centre was redundant. The men’s centre didn’t even follow the normal course. It was started from the top-down, given $30K without a clear mandate, and all without male students petitioning for it. They claim domestic violence is mostly started by women and that both men and women commit it equally. They claim there’s no rape culture. They claim fathers get a raw deal in family court. All of these are untrue yet these propagandist soundbites get repeated in the media.
Especially troubling is the MRA main narrative, that Canadian society is a Gynocracy, ruled and run by women. In fact, John Hambling, who was fired from AVFM, calls Canada a ‘cuntry’ that has too many feminists. Erin Pizzey, a British MRA claims Canada is considered one of the worst places to live if you’re a man. It wouldn’t be so ridiculous if they didn’t absolutely believe it to be true. They see women as having the ultimate power in politics because, as they put it, more women vote. They also think women run capitalism too, because of our disposable income that is ‘given us by a man.’
AVFM recently attacked Heather Mallick of the Toronto Star for an article she wrote stating the men’s rights groups are a waste of time. She criticized MRA propaganda regarding boys doing worse than girls in school and criticized CAFE’s new men’s centre. AVFM quickly posted her picture on their site and called her a bigot. In between calling her an ugly bitch cunt who can’t get a man one MRA said he was going to find out her speaking schedule and drive out to harass her.
So where does MRA rhetoric come from? Most of it comes from what they consider to be the ‘father’ of their movement, US based Warren Farrell. He wrote a book called ‘The Myth of Male Power’ in the early 90’s that told men they were powerless because of their sex drives and that women’s bodies put men at a disadvantage. He claims women need to be protected by men and uses all manner of outlandish pseudo-science to support it. He never says what women need protection from but concludes that women hold all the power in society.
It would be hard to find a single example in history in which a group that cast more than 50 percent of the vote got away with calling itself the victim… Women are the only ‘oppressed’ group to share the same parents as the ‘oppressor'; to be born into the middle class and upper class as frequently as the ‘oppressor'; to own more of the culture’s luxury items than the ‘oppressor’~ The Myth of Male Power
Farrell is great at re-writing history as is Karen Straughn, a Canadian MRA who claims a little wife beating is normal. She’s says she’s proud of her ‘viking’ roots, which is a direct appeal to the white nationalists that are part of the MRM. When interviewed by David Pakman she used racism as an ‘argument’ against the notion that men prefer women more than men. She invoked a concept in psychology called in group preference to claim that men should prefer men but really love women, hence the male need to protect women and that it’s odd because white men aren’t suckled by black women.
Straughn’s historical revisionism is legendary and MRA’s around the world eat it up as fact. She’s a staunch Libertarian and has spoken on libertarian panels in the US. She rarely speaks about Libertarianism but instead uses the platform to throw out propaganda such as upper class white women started feminism, which Naomi Wolf had to continually correct her. She romanticizes returning to some golden era where women and men knew their roles, such as the 50’s or as far back as the turn of the 20th century.
VICE did a great take-down of her and her MRA cronies.
Speaking of rape, here’s Farrell’s swipe at rape culture:
Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.~The Myth of Male Power
Farrell recently teamed up with the owner of A Voice For Men, Paul Elam, to promote the second edition of Myth of Male Power.
He’s been taken to town in the mainstream media for his misogynist screeds he either writes or publishes on his website. One article he’s known for is called ‘Bash a Violent Bitch Month’ where he describes in detail what he’d like to do to a woman.
I’d like to make it the objective for the remainder of this month, and all the Octobers that follow, for men who are being attacked and physically abused by women – to beat the living shit out of them. I don’t mean subdue them, or deliver an open handed pop on the face to get them to settle down. I mean literally to grab them by the hair and smack their face against the wall till the smugness of beating on someone because you know they won’t fight back drains from their nose with a few million red corpuscles.
And then make them clean up the mess. …~Paul Elam
Elam perpetuates rape culture, while simultaneously denying its existence
“I have ideas about women who spend evenings in bars hustling men for drinks, playing on their sexual desires … And the women who drink and make out, doing everything short of sex with men all evening, and then go to his apartment at 2:00 a.m.. Sometimes both of these women end up being the “victims” of rape.
But are these women asking to get raped?
In the most severe and emphatic terms possible the answer is NO, THEY ARE NOT ASKING TO GET RAPED.
They are freaking begging for it.
Damn near demanding it.
And all the outraged PC demands to get huffy and point out how nothing justifies or excuses rape won’t change the fact that there are a lot of women who get pummeled and pumped because they are stupid (and often arrogant) enough to walk though life with the equivalent of a I’M A STUPID, CONNIVING BITCH – PLEASE RAPE ME neon sign glowing above their empty little narcissistic heads.’~Paul Elam
If you’ve started hearing this propaganda in the public sphere you now know where it’s coming from. While most mainstream media outlets rightly recognize MRA’s as the new Marc LePine’s and abhor and mock them, some Canadian media embraces them.
Barbara Kay of The National Post has officially become a mouthpiece for MRA’s, repeating their false narrative that women are making false rape accusations to get out of drunken college situations.
Canadian Senator Anne Cools spoke at the first MRA conference in St. Clair Shores this year to talk about love and marriage in a traditionally conservative bent. She is outspoken about her disdain for LGBTTS persons having rights to marry.
MRA’s claim they are bipartisan but one closer look reveals they are traditional conservatives with a libertarian bent. They believe the State is the new ‘man in the house’ and resent things like Title IX and the new affirmative consent laws that were spurred on by Eric Holder and President Obama to address rape on college campuses. In fact, in the MRA 2014 manifesto they claim to want to end child support and rape shield laws that protect rape victims.
They are clearly not doing a single thing for men. They will quote statistics about male suicide and workplace deaths but follow it up with nothing but endless hacking at women’s rights.
Canadians must come together to face this. This is a problem that won’t go away without careful consideration. Part of the problem when dealing with backlash movements is the fine edge between ignoring them and giving them attention. I’ve thought about this question often. Should we just ignore them? I don’t think this is the right answer but we must be careful when engaging them that we don’t give them any legitimacy.
Many mainstream outlets use the MRA circus as clickbait because these guys are so bloody ridiculous but fail to see that these guys are like Marc LePine and they will do anything to harm women and children. I don’t think the mainstream media handles them as carefully as I would.
I would like to offer all women a place, here at this blog, to network as activists against MRA’s. I’ve helped many women who were targeted by MRA’s. While I use this blog to report on MRA’s, its main purpose is to network with other feminists to stop the MRA backlash.
Please bookmark this site and get involved with us here to keep abreast of how you can help other Canadian women. Our networking is crucial.
I leave you with the official site of White Ribbon, an international organization dedicated to ending male violence against women. Donate to them. They’ve recently been attacked by Paul Elam. Elam cloned the site to divert money to his pocket. Remember there is only ONE home site and ends with .ca domain.
Richard Dawkins, once the superior overlord of logic to MRA’s everywhere has now become a meanie old man who lives in an ivory tower and doesn’t understand anything about anything.
Paul Elam and co. are having a mantrum over not being publicly recognized by Richard Dawkins when he spoke at Kennesaw State University. For those of you not in the know, KSU has been infested with a men’s rights group started by AVFM’s Sage Gerard, who is a Senior there. Needless to say, the Uni has been a bit of a hot spot when it comes to hating on feminists so when the mighty Dawkins was asked about feminism and then about men’s rights, something happened.
During the QnA Dawkins was asked if he supports feminism and asked if feminism is important within the scientific community. Of course he answered ‘yes’ and even gave the appropriate definition of feminism, albeit a rather thin one.
When asked if Dawkins supports men’s rights he replied he had no idea what the MRM is and said he doesn’t think men are discriminated against to which the audience clapped. Wooooboy!
Caution: Elam Tears Ahead
Dawkins was once a darling of the MRM due to his snarky anti-feminist remarks to Rebecca Watson that we often hear from manchildren who say feminism is not needed in Western countries and the darky Muslim women have it ‘oh so much worse.’ Comments like that, we know, are mens way to silence women, to tell her she’s a dumb bitch and should shut up about it.
MRA’s rejoiced at Dawkins response to Watson. They crowned him a male hero.
Then this happened:
The oh-so-logical Dawkins has taken his official fall from grace over at AVFM. (Get your male tears mugs ready)
Dawkins is now an old bat who doesn’t know his ass from his elbow.
[Dawkins is] so insulated in his ivory tower that it has disconnected him from anything, well, contemporary. He seems so unplugged at this point that he actually seems to think that ideology is good for science.~Paul Elam
In between castigating old man Dawkins, Elam and co are making up little bed time stories about the event to make themselves feel better.
The audience applause at Dawkins remark that he didn’t think men are oppressed has been re-made into a new story, one that Elam’s ego can handle. The applause was really from MRA’s thinking Dawkins is a dumb poopy head.
The snickers in the audience had two meanings, Richard. One, they were the auditory equivalent of eye rolls. And two, they were an acknowledgement of hateful ideologues (the feminism you no longer seem to understand) that you have been sufficiently conditioned or cowed into being useful to.~Paul Elam
Elam’s invented some new shit too. In regards to feminism being important in science Elam’s new story is that Dawkins thinks ideology and science should be mixed together. LOL. It doesn’t get any better than this.
That is the problem with living the insulated life. Not only do you end up making foil-hat-worthy observations that translate to ideology being good for science, but eventually the insulation becomes so thick, so protective and muffling, that whatever tiny spark remains in the wire is of little use to science or to society.
This kind of Elam meltdown is hilarious because he invents a completely new story to soothe his poor ego.
The comment section is hilarious too. Dawkins went from a masculine logical manly man to an old bat.
Dawkins is 73 years old. He’s hardly immune to the ravages of age.
This is a man 1) who is so insulated from the matter he’s simply unaware of facts, and his support for feminism therefore has no meaning; 2) whose mind and memory are clouded by age… ~Jack Strawb
Dawkins has always been a bit of a hack.~Matt Cash
Look into Thunderf00t and his videos. There’s a real skeptic.~Daniel Freeman
The details are coming in slowly in the case of 23 year old German woman Tugce Albayrak who was murdered by a man who hit her in a parking lot after she tried stopping the men from street harassing other girls. She is one more woman to add to the billions of women murdered by men and by extension, patriarchy.
So apparently saying hello is now promoting rape culture.~Christopher Cantwell, AVFM
This is why street harassment is violent and the motives of men who do it are violent. It’s not about saying ‘hello’ or ‘how are you?’ as MRA’s and other male supremacists have argues. It’s about domination and submission. Women are supposed to submit in the public space to men who want to dominate them and take up their time and attention. If a woman rebukes a street harasser she gets called a bitch, cunt, and in this case she is murdered.
Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with wishing a beautiful woman a good day.~Christopher Cantwell, AVFM
Tugce was punched once by a man which immediately knocked to the ground. The man put her in a coma and she was put on life support. On her 23rd birthday, her family decided to remove the support.
I am 6’8” tall and 285 pounds. If a woman five feet tall and 110 pounds soaking wet hits me, I am going to hit her back.~Paul Elam
Germany is thinking about awarding her some sort of national medal. Another dead woman by the hands of a man must be honoured and all women must know that for simply trying to stop men from publically harassing women, their punishment will be death and a medal.
She’s yet another soldier who tried freeing other women by simply telling men ‘don’t harass us.’
Women are in a warzone every day. Men brutally beat us, rape us, and harass us in public and private. We are the ones with PTSD by the time we’re 17. We’re the real soldiers here. The public honours us with medals for our sacrifice and within this minute, by the time you finish reading this sentence, somewhere on the planet, another 10 or more women will die at the hands of a man.
I would do my best to return the violence proportionally, to just use enough force to stop the attack, but I can make no guarantees.~Paul Elam
I will only approve of the honour to her if the man who murdered her gets the medal of ‘MRA male supremacist woman beater of Germany’ and is shunned by everyone. While I don’t approve of the death penalty, I do approve of social castigation. In fact, I think it’s best. I want him to live without friends, a job, and whatever other social connections for he robbed a woman of her life all because he wanted to defend his entitlement to harm other women.
Never mind the fact that it probably would have made this woman’s day if some fit guy in a thousand-dollar suit asked her for a date.~Christopher Cantwell, AVFM
Women don’t want to be stopped and talked to by strange men in public. For every one woman that writes on a comment section she might not mind it there are thousands more who don’t. Think of it this way: we have to have special organizations like Hollaback just to tell men we don’t like being harmed in the street.
Really. Think about that. What kind of freedom do women have when we must create organizations to tell men ‘no?’ Our oppression is that great that individual women speaking about not wanting to be street harassed aren’t enough. We must have entire organizations.
Street harassment isn’t innocuous greetings. When Tugce said ‘no’ (oh that tricky word that men don’t seem to understand) to a man, he murders her, with one hit sanctioned by Elam. Beating up people who are much smaller than you is a special kind of privilege that only men have and they use it liberally.
AVFM is a cesspool of ideological hatred against women. Their casual dismissal of street harassment and Elam’s screeds where he gets happy over the thought of hitting a woman 1/3 his size are direct testaments to the way in which women are in constant battle for our right to live without men murdering us.
Since publishing this article I’ve been stalked to Twitter and several MRA’s are here trying to brigade with their incessant pleas for victimhood. All comments are now by approval only. Sorry to do this to my readership but this is what men do when confronted with their violence. They either come here to violate more women or they claim to be the poor dears while they’re in their mommy’s basement watching porn, playing video games and writing endless woman-hating screeds in the Manosphere.
Aside from the obvious, that MRA’s are men who have the same thinking as men in the 14th century and that they have no place in the modern world, there is another characteristic inherent in them that will eventually lead them to their own end.
More and more men, however slight, are adopting the misogynist rhetoric of the MRM. This is getting apparent to us in the mainstream.
A couple instances that pop out to me: Elliot Rodger and Warhammer, they quite clearly have the same beliefs about women that MRA’s do. Rodger thought he was the supreme gentleman that women should go out with which pairs him with MRA Stefan Molyneux who said women who don’t go out with ‘nice guy’s are going to end the human race. Warhammer beat the shit out of his 100 pound girlfriend and is similar to Paul Elam who claims bashing a violent bitch is not only OK, it’s necessary because women start it. I’m saying it’s incredibly easy to pick out MRA’s and we must teach as many women as possible what to look for and hear so they can avoid them.
The one thing, the main thing, that is going to annihilate MRA’s is themselves through toxic masculinity.
Toxic masculinity has gotten a lot of media attention and sociologists like Michael Kimmel are well versed in this subject. Feminists have theorized for decades that gender is harmful to men.
TM is an analysis of the male gender role: masculinity, and how it’s inherently harming men. Feminists have rightly analyzed and criticized gender roles decades ago. The behaviours required to ‘be a man’ is the precise thing that will end the MRM and all its little factions forever. So how will this take place?
We are getting a good view of it now. Paul Elam is fighting with MGTOW men, a subset of MRA’s. I won’t detail the many differences between the two groups because it doesn’t truly matter. To them, the distinctions are crucial.
The basic difference between the two groups is thus. MGTOW’s are men who completely reject relationships with women. They’ve invented a lexicon of misogynist terms they share in the Manosphere like ‘hypergamy’ which means women are gold diggers. MRA’s do have relationships with women and are even ok with marriage.
The war is over whether MGTOW’s can be married and still be MGTOW. Elam says ‘yes,’ although he claims his common law relationship isn’t marriage. He forgets that common law is marriage without the ceremony. Depending on which state he resides there are time parameters where once you live with a woman for a certain amount of time, you become legally bound to one another.
MGTOW’s like Hambling represent the opposing side which claims that MGTOW and marriage do not mix, even though Hambling also lives with a woman and is also considered common law.
The conflict started at the end of last year and in the last couple months has gotten very loud and open. Elam’s motivations are part dick-wagging and part charlatan. He would hate to lose to this ‘battle’ to his old protege but he also wants MGTOW men to visit his site and give him money. Paul’s site isn’t doing well.
If I had to pick which group I prefer it would be MGTOW’s even though they are more open about hating women, and that’s probably the same reason I like them more. MRA’s try to cleanse their woman hatred by using left leaning rhetoric while being wholly tradtionalist which makes them a laughingstock.
MGTOW’s are beneficial to women because they’re the men who can’t get dates and fear us. They have serious issues and they do us a favour by taking themselves out of the dating scene, refusing to interact with us. They’re drop-outs who started a movement of fellow drop outs so they’d have an identity and company in their wallowing.
Toxic masculinity requires men to think in terms of hierarchy. Men, instead of viewing all as equals, tend to place men above and below them and women always below them, hence the need for women’s liberation. It’s also why we see men call other men alpha’s, beta’s etc. The phrase ‘man up’ wasn’t invented by women even though the Manosphere thinks it was.
Masculinity necessarily negates equality. What men do to women by dominating us and treating us as second-class citizens, they do to other men.
The skirmish between Elam and Hambling is a display of toxic masculinity. One of them has to go because to men, someone has to ‘win.’ I suppose winning involves whoever gets the most upvotes on a YouTube video.
They frame what they’re doing as a ‘war’ and use that rhetoric very liberally. One of them must be put in his place. They’ll fight to the death= when Youtube ratings declare a winner. This is why men are bound to fail in any kind of movement that requires unity which means seeing everyone else as an equal, with equal potential and personhood.
Elam won’t let it rest. Hambling won’t let it rest. They’ve been sparring for weeks with various side actors generously giving their opinion and taking sides.
The problem, and we know this as feminists when we discuss toxic masculinity (gender), is that in men’s minds, someone has to be the Alpha and the someone has to be the Beta.
This is why feminists challenge gender and why we need to raise boys differently.
MRA’s think feminists ‘feminize’ boys. MRA’s encourage traditional masculinity and ironically it’s this very gender role that’s got them in this little pickle. Raising boys to put people in hierarchies of importance inevitably leads them to violence since every boy needs to continually find his place in the hierarchy by starting fights with other boys.
I can hear Tom Golden’s soft-spoken whimper that feminists are keeping boys away from games in school which demand domination and winning. See asshole? See why feminists are correct? You idiots are going to ruin your own silly movement because you’re too busy fighting each other over silly shit.
The MRA concept of ‘white knighting’ relates to toxic masculinity in the sense that MRA’s want men to dehumanize others. Elam accused Hambling of white knighting his girlfriend in arguments on AVFM forums. It’s meant as an insult because men aren’t supposed to help others, especially women. Men are not to see others as human.
I say let the blockheads fight. It provides us feminists entertainment and proves our point about toxic gender roles.
I’m savouring the irony. Feminism has known about men’s issues for a long time and educated feminist mothers have been doing their best to get their boys to stop seeing others as constant rivals. That worldview causes war and isn’t this the same disposability that MRA’s moan about so often?
The faulty belief that women somehow enjoy the hierarchical ‘second place’ and the ‘wars’ that go along with masculinity is an MRA one and by extension, a traditional one. Farrell and Elam, even Hambling, reinforce traditional masculinity but blame it on women by claiming we want it, just like they did when a video highlighting street harassment went viral.
Warren Farrell is the mastermind behind those mental gymnastics. He claims men don’t have any choice or agency because men are sex starved idiots who couldn’t possibly make the decision to play competitive sports because they want to dominate and beat other men. He blames football injuries on cheerleaders.
The very disposability MRA’s screech about is brought about by them, through toxic/traditional masculinity. Feminists aren’t destroying men. Men are destroying men.
Hate to put it to you morons but women and feminists see this hierarchical (let Elam try pronouncing that) posturing and the need to destroy another as silly and ridiculous. We understand the importance of equality and value life and see no need to engage in combat displays to put other women down. We’ve known about gender roles for decades.
I don’t know when this will end but I’m sure they’ll see this and talk about it. It’s useless though since they’ll see this as a feminist solution and will condemn it. Or they might find another way of manipulating the language so it doesn’t sound so feminist but will discuss it all the same.
You know the stereotype of the man who can’t ask for directions? This is a perfect metaphor for the current situation. A man must wander around aimlessly because his masculinity depends on it. He must do it on his own. Cooperation is foreign to him. Equality is foreign to him.
Here’s to watching them wander around aimlessly while feminists have held the map for decades.
Radical feminist mag Trouble and Strife: article about gender. (Go read it MRA’s)
In my personal life I’ve had to file a report against a male security guard who works in my building. It’s been a harrowing experience and I feel like sharing it.
A bit of background: The security guards who work at my building are usually very nice. They work very closely with tenants like me who are disabled. The company that owns my building is very woman-centered and owns several female-only buildings in Vancouver although I live in a co-ed. The guards they hire are usually skilled and are quite nice to tenants.
In the many years I’ve lived in this building I’ve never had a single problem with any of the guards, men included. However, over the summer one of the newer male guards that works here befriended me, as most of the guards normally do. He was a new guard so he made attempts at getting to know me.
I had my reservations about him from day one as I do with all men. I never totally trust them because you never know when a male is going to push your boundaries or assault you. It turns out this guard had other plans and wasn’t being nice to me because it was just a part of his job.
He wanted to date me and kept making sexual advances which I flatly refused. I was surprised he’d even ask me such a question because guards are never allowed to have interpersonal/sexual relationships with any tenant.
I told him flat out ‘no.’ In his mind he entered the ‘friendzone’ and as usual men do anything to get out of it and instead of just being happy I’m his friend he wants more, and my ‘no’s’ meant nothing to him.
I often wonder, even though I know the answer, why men don’t understand the word ‘no.’ I intellectually understand why men disregard women’s ‘no’s’ but since I’m a human being that understands the word I can’t get myself to stop asking why other human beings don’t.
It’s astonishing isn’t it? We grow up as children understanding basic concepts like ‘no’ and yet grown men ignore it. Imagine what sort of cognitive impairment must be present in a man and it’s MRA’s who call women children. Projection at its finest.
So he kept trying and I kept refusing. It got to the point, very quickly, that I just stopped talking to him when he was on shift. I wouldn’t even look at him. You see, I had told him quite bluntly he better knock it off. But men, being stupid, think they’re entitled.
When I’d enter the building he wouldn’t immediately buzz me in and he’d try giving me my mail as a pretext to corner me and talk to me. This happened about 3 times. It was really starting to piss me off. I didn’t want to leave the building when he was working because it meant he’d try and stop me on my way back in.
So a few nights ago I was sitting here relaxing in my usual nocturnal pattern. It was 2am and I was watching a movie and folding origami. Someone knocked on my door.
At first I thought it was a mistake, that someone might be lost and mistakenly knocked on my door. I went to the door and didn’t open it. I said ‘what do you want!? in a shrill manner and I heard the male guard’s voice say something to me that I couldn’t quite make out. I did hear the word ‘package’ and assumed there was a box for me from the US that had been delivered earlier in the day. But I heard his voice. I refused to answer the door, went back to bed, and waited for his shadow to slink away from the light under the door.
About 10 minutes later I saw a shadow under my door. I didn’t know if it was a person or an object but after staring for a few minutes it didn’t move. It was a package. I was frightened.
For the next couple hours or so I heard him creeping around on my floor. The reason I knew he was there is because the guards always carry a mobile phone that they use to buzz people into the building if they’re not at the front desk. I kept hearing the phone ring.
I blockaded my door with various things and eventually went to bed with that shadow under my door. This guy has a master key to all the suites. I was paranoid he would try entering since I refused to open the door.
The next morning the shadow under the door was gone. Someone had removed the package.
That night around 7pm another guard came to my door delivering my mail and this box. It is not standard protocol for guards to deliver mail to people’s doors. I usually get it on my way out or in to the building since the mail slots are in the main office. pI thought it strange to get this delivery.
He gave me a few letters and a large box with a sealed note attached. I opened the box and there was a bottle of Harvey’s Bristol Cream Sherry in there. A note was attached and sealed. It was from that male guard who had been sexually harassing me. He was trying to get me to open my door the night before with this ‘gift.’
I didn’t open the letter. I held the sherry and thought about returning it but that would mean I might have to see him and talk to him. I put the sherry in the fridge and tossed the sealed note aside. I still haven’t read it.
I sat down and my head raced. I thought my ‘no’ really meant ‘no.’ I was pissed that he violated me further by knocking on my door at 2am. I knew at that point that he would continue to press my boundaries if I didn’t put a stop to it. I just didn’t know exactly how.
Turns out this male guard went to other guards and begged them to deliver the box with the sherry inside and the note. He even put it in the official log book. This sealed his fate as now it’s properly logged that indeed a box was delivered by another guard at his request. What an idiot. His male privilege is so unconscious he actually put it in the fucking log book thinking that because he’s male, nobody will notice or question it. He thinks he can happily terrorize me within my own living space using the other guards to do it! I don’t fucking think so.
You see men, because of their male privilege, count on our silence. They intimidate and never take ‘no’ for an answer while they keep pressing our boundaries. Fuck, he even employed other to do this for him!
I decided this fucker is going to lose his job over this. Not only will he lose this job but he’ll have a very hard time getting another job in this industry. He’s fucked.
Was it worth it? I mean really? Thinking with your dick will get you in trouble but in men’s eyes they don’t often get in trouble because our society tolerates it. This is why men keep doing it.
I’m lucky I have the other female guard behind me. She also wrote a statement backing me up. When I met with her last night she said ‘I believe you.’
I told her everything. She encouraged me to report it and told me she was going to tell the property manager. She instructed me to write this all down and she’d deliver it to the property manager. I did exactly that.
I asked her what was going to happen after the note. She told me that this weekend the property manager will get the note and head office will be phoned immediately. The male guard will be put on suspension and an investigation will ensue. I will be interviewed early next week by phone and this guard will lose his job once I complete the interview.
I am still worried about potential backlash but the female guard assured me that he will be banned from entering the building.
Men need to learn what ‘no’ means. In this day and age it’s getting a bit easier for women to come forward when they’re being sexually harassed but it still isn’t great.
I’ve decided not to feel guilty about this asshole losing his job and his career. He did it to himself. If it wasn’t me it would’ve been another woman and hopefully now, there will never be another woman.
Maybe he’ll learn something. Then again he’s a bit older than I am and if he hasn’t learned by now I don’t know if he ever will.
I made the decision not to tolerate his behaviour, to make sure I’ve done my part so another woman doesn’t get sexually assaulted. I wouldn’t want this to happen to another woman.
I don’t feel safe in my own fucking home due to this asshole. In a couple days he’ll be suspended and I’ll feel better. Still, I can’t imagine why a man would do such stupid shit. It’s not like he doesn’t know this isn’t allowed. This is part of their training. I keep going over and over with that question in my mind.
Why? Why do something you know could get you ruined? It doesn’t make logical sense.
This will all be over soon. I’ll update if necessary.