This one’s rich. Get some popcorn and settle in.
Kate Winslet’s former husband Jim Threapleton got cozy with the British group Fathers4Justice when he felt Kate wasn’t allowing him to see their daughter Mia. F4J is similar to A Voice for Men with their misogynist rhetoric and anti-feminist stance. Many of the men in the group have criminal records for beating their wives, restraining orders, and generally just being deadbeat dads.
Fathers4Justice recently made a poster campaign featuring Kate with the caption ‘Kate, every child deserves their father this Christmas.’ She is now in litigation with the group to stop the campaign to which they say they’re going ahead with it.
Many have accused Kate of being a bad mother. She replied to this criticism:
‘My kids don’t go back and forth; none of this 50/50 time with the mums and dads – my children live with me; that is it. That is it!’
She also told Vogue that her children have great relationships with their fathers but this is too tasty a morsel and needs some spin by the cheezeheads at A Voice for Men.
Enter a FeMRA named Janet Bloomfield, aka Judgybitch from A Voice For Men. Upon reading
these tidbits about Kate, Judgybitch went into a staunch rant about her own terrible parents. Using Kate as the example, she said kids have to have 50/50 time with mums and dads. It’s not surprising that Judgybitch lacks contextual analysis of the issue of child custody. In her mind, no matter if the father is a batterer or the mother is ill, the kids have to be with both of them.
Judgybitch’s personal story begins with her father not being there:
‘My father was rarely a full participant in the celebrations, but he would drop off gifts, or have them mailed to us, and then be on his way. We had no idea at the time that he was in violation of court orders when he showed up, and that my mother would only permit him to stay for a few minutes. He considered himself lucky to have even that.’
There’s usually a good reason when a restraining order is issued. MRA’s seem to think that they’re given out like candy and that women just file them on a whim. In Judgybitch’s case, that doesn’t appear to be true. A father who beats his child and forces child labour on them is a bad father and yet Judgybitch goes on to blame her mother for lying to her.
‘My mother built a careful psychological cage around her children and taught us to hate him. Not just dislike, but to actively despise and hate him.’
She admits later in a roundabout way that her father was strict and probably carried out corporal punishment on her and her siblings. She said he
’embraced a particularly violent form of Christianity that encouraged… interesting, shall we say… disciplinary techniques. He believed in the value of physical labor, and took that to extremes, sometimes. He believed in the character-building value of hardship. He was not always the best father.’
She thinks Kate Winslet is guilty of doing the same to her children but there’s no evidence of that. It’s just an excuse to release her own pain. Paul Elam has often said that A Voice for Men is the place where men can vent their anger and I can’t agree more. I think the entire staff of the site have severe mental health issues that aren’t resolved and are playing out in every piece they write.
It’s quite possible that most of the staff suffer from Parental Alienation Syndrome. Dean Esmay commented that he most certainly has this problem. What’s common in all of them is the blame of women, their mothers, their ex-wives, and females in general. Judgybitch writes:
‘In most cases of parental alienation, it is fathers and children who are victims of vindictive mothers – women who are fully prepared to destroy their children psychologically for their own twisted desires.’
She then gives a link to Robert M. Gordon (which seems random), a psychoanalyist who wrote about Parental Alienation Syndrome within a Freudian perspective. The book chapter focuses on PAS with an emphasis on power relations. He states:
‘Although Parental Alienation Syndrome is induced by mothers, fathers, grandparents and same sex parents, it is far more common with mothers. We are more likely to abuse the people who are most available and under our power. Men tend to abuse women, and mothers are more likely to abuse their children.’
This is the only link given to support Judgybitch’s idea that mothers are to blame for PAS. I’m sorry but as a person with an Honours degree in Psychology, I don’t take Freudian analysis very seriously since the man covered up the sexual abuse of his female clients. Plus, it quite clearly states that any family member can cause it.
It’s quite sad reading about her lack of good parenting and it’s odd that she stoically writes about how she couldn’t change her childhood and yet she can change how she reacts to it. There’s an unresolved anger in her and it’s most certainly directed at her mother. It’s no wonder she’s a FeMRA. I’m sure her mother was probably doing the best she could considering her husband was beating the children but Judgybitch is too judgmental to see that both of her parents made mistakes.
None of her explosive anger has anything to do with Kate Winslet. It’s just another excuse to beat up on women who actually take care of their children and keep them out of the hands of deadbeat fathers who align themselves with misogynist groups like Fathers4Justice. I applaud Kate for standing up for herself, for standing up for motherhood, and how important it is that children have a stable life with the stable parent. That would be Kate.