Looking Male Supremacists Dead in Their Dead Eyes (The Boner Busters Takedown)

When a woman says ‘NO’ to a man, he wants to kill her. This is patriarchy. This is male entitlement. This is how men think about women. This piece is so important for every woman to read and for every man to read so he can take his proverbial head out of his ass and stop threatening to rape us because women don’t want to talk to him.

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12 thoughts on “Looking Male Supremacists Dead in Their Dead Eyes (The Boner Busters Takedown)

  1. Admittedly it’s difficult to listen to the message of an article when the blog it originated on is anti-trans 😦

  2. I’m happy to see you re-blogged this. I really like her blog! I spent way too much time yesterday reading it.

    I don’t think she’s anti-trans-gender. She’s definitely anti-rape culture and anti-patriarchal system. She explains some things about this in one of her blogposts. There has been an ongoing problem (which I’ve only read about at lots of different blogs) with trans-gender born-men trying to get feminists to do their work for them. Feminists are reluctant for different reasons – all good reasons – including the fact that men have a record of betrayal. They get women to stand by them, do the work, actually get on the front lines (a la “chicks up front” to get beaten first with batons) and then when the battle is over (the end of of the Na draft, for example), they throw women firmly under the bus.

    In this blogpost: http://wwomenwwarriors.wordpress.com/2014/04/19/i-know-i-know-misandry-and-lots-of-swearing/comment-page-1/#comment-2108 she discusses a particular incident in which a trans-man describes rape by a man as a woman’s rite of passage to womanhood – this kind of thing is why, while feminists support them as human beings, they don’t want to do their activism work for them or make an alliance with them And, that’s just one individual example. There have been other instances where these trans-people have horned in on feminists events (where there are lots of sex crime survivors and their daughters who may be survivors, as well) and put their man parts on display in restrooms or showering areas. Women feel physically threatened and endangered by them. And, some of their groups are as bad as MRAs – they are very hostile towards individual feminists and feminist groups who don’t behave as they want them to.

    • I have heard that MRA’s and transactvsts got together to close down feminist events. I won’t stand for misogyny no matter where it comes from. If that is true, then I have some serious thinking to do.

      There is a difference between cis and trans ( I still don’t know all these bloody terms). If we accept socialization as a factor in molding us then we must accept that cis women have a very different, yet common patterns of socialization and experience.

      I’m somewhat hesitant on the biological stuff though because I don’t know much about the diff/sim between trans, intersexed and cis. I’m always hesitant to make biological arguments because people usually aren’t nuanced enough to understand that biology isn’t a static concept.

      Human brains are incredibly plastic, meaning our brains adapt over time. What we might consider a biological element for example hormonal changes, we KNOW they change over time and can be modified by the environment.

      I’m more interested in patterns.

      • I see the last comment is in moderation – it might be better if you don’t let it go through (or this one, either) – this is better just for your information and mine.

        I just looked up the terms: “MRA and trans movement” at Google. I’m a little shocked. I didn’t know much about the trans before and I certainly didn’t know they were such enemies of feminism.

        This article at SLP mentions RadFemHub (never heard of it ’til you mentioned it yesterday). I’m getting an education. Kind of scary. I don’t know much about trans, but I will no longer assume that they are safe people.

        • I’ve read the links you gave me and unapproved the post so nobody could see it. I am disgusted at what I saw there. Now I don’t know what provoked all that hatred but I sure as hell don’t want that coming my way. If it does I do KNOW how to approach the police and I WILL. I won’t be silenced or scared into silence. There is a great article I found, in several parts, written by a geneticist, that talks about the basics of genetics and the Y chromosome’s failing life. I found it so fucking amazing that I read the entire thing, took me at least an hour and my ass was frozen from it.

          Little did I know man was causing his own downfall. Valar Morghulis.

  3. HMQ,

    This whole blogpost by whenwomenwerewarriors illustrates exactly why I think we ought to do as much as possible secretly, quietly IRL or in super-secret closed, maybe by invitation-only and women-only groups. Women really need a safe space and we need to learn to help – and in some cases (I saw your last YT video) to learn to trust – other women. I have been fortunate to know some great women, so I know how well women can work to help and support each other – even women they’ve never laid eyes on before, if they need help. Needless to say, I miss those women.

    I still have to look up the radfemhub issue. It says a lot that we HAVE to be so secretive to avoid harassment or worse. But, I think the writing is on the wall.

    • Yes, we do need our own spaces. I totally agree. Living in a patriarchal society creates the need for us to have it. We shouldn’t be relegated off the internet. This tool is quite important. We need women with tech experience to hold down the fort so to speak and yes, it has to be word of mouth in order to enter. You can’t just let anyone in, even if they say they’re female. MRA’s pose as women to get in to these sites.

      • Yes, I’m thinking maybe we need both IRL and the tech end of things. For instance, I think women e-mailing each other or women in closed on-line (old-fashioned yahoo-type) groups would be safe.

        The problem is the popular aspects of tech right now are especially unsafe for women, anyway – for example, Facebook is a massive tool for stalkers. It was practically designed that way – it was some entitlement-minded frat boy who came up with it originally (if you can believe anything about the story of its origins – I’m skeptical). It’s easily hacked.

        YouTube is another one that is clearly unsafe for women – the MRAs have harassed and stalked a lot of women off there. If you look at any search results there, very often you’ll go down the list and see nothing but men’s faces on the video thumbs. It wasn’t like that a few years ago.

        Plus, we have this current cultural trend of putting everything out in public for everyone to see. I think we need to keep the technology aspect of things, but lose the idea of making everything so public. It’s just not safe.

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