I write in the dead of night, when I feel safest. The busy street is quiet and most people are asleep. It’s when I can collect my thoughts without distraction. Occasionally, I hear my pet mouse pitter-pattering on the linoleum, begging for food, and I know for the moment that I’m in my own little home with the little creatures I adore. I’m safe from street harassment and safe from men. There’s a deadbolt on my door and I can always climb out of my window if a man tries entering. I keep my fingernails sharp as hell and tell myself that I will gauge a man’s eyes out if he tries anything.
For most of the day I was lost in a numb shell. There were no waves of emotions I could measure time with. I feel like I’m suspended somewhere, I dunno where. There’s nothing pulling me, nothing pushing me. It’s like I’m in water.
I keep drinking coffee, and smoking and sitting at my computer. I’m tired. Extremely tired. I think if I type out how I feel it will help me rid myself of this suspension. My sleeping is fucked up. I went to bed at 4pm yesterday and slept till midnight. Men don’t have to live this way. They don’t have to worry about such fine details of their safety. They don’t have to worry about going out in public, getting sexually hollered at or raped. They know FUCK ALL about it.
The misogynist killing spree of that jackass has really gotten to me. I know about the Manosphere and how he was identical to MRA’s/PUA’s/MGTOW and the rest of those assholes. I read their violent rhetoric almost every damned day. When some MRA fuckwit comments on MSM articles about how ‘not all men are like that’ or ‘the jackass was mentally ill and that’s why he did it’ I want to scream.
Listen spermturds, there’s way too many jackasses like YOU out there. I’m not setting up a screening process and taking time out of my life so I can find one of you that’s halfway decent. I have enough shit to do trying to protect myself on a daily basis than to set up some program of how to separate all of you. When I see how some of you derail the facts surrounding why the jackass did what he did then you just add to my consciousness. You fuckwits pile up real damn fast. It gets to the point where I don’t want anything to do with a single one of you, and I DON’T.
Guess what? I don’t fucking want to waste time on any of you. You don’t deserve it. When you supposed enlightened dudebros start taking the other assholes to town and correcting their shit so that I don’t have to go through my 75-step safety plan then I might have a few minutes to bestow on you. Right now none of you deserve a single ounce of time yet y’all think you’re entitled to it.
If I walk down the street it’s one of you fuckers that issues me an order to ‘smile.’ I don’t have to fucking smile at you. If one of you says ‘hi’ to me and I don’t instantly pay heed to you, you call me a ‘bitch.’
If I want to sleep with one of you I become a whore. If I don’t sleep with any of you I’m a frigid bitch and become a target. Guess what assholes? I’m never going to sleep with ANY OF YOU.
I went through this period of political lesbianism that never really quite left my consciousness. I’m still a political lesbian. My intimate time is going where it’s deserved: TO A WOMAN. I imagine walking down the street with my girlfriend so happy and content like I did in my college years and not so many years ago. I think women should become political lesbians because too many of you males are murdering us. Who the fuck wants to play Russian roulette with our very lives? I sure as shit don’t.
To try and find some balance last night I watched movies about women. I watched a biography about Winnie Mandela last night. I also watched a movie about Dian Fossey and Jane Goodall. These women never gave up. Their strength inspires me, making me want to go forward. Even the women in these films had to deal with jackasses and I suppose I also watched to learn their balance strategies.
Even the againstmensrights reddit is full of nice images and videos of animals and other cute things to try and cleanse our minds from the male hatred staring us straight in the face in the form of the ‘Men’s Human Rights Movement.’
Jesus H. Christ you jackasses actually think you’re a fucking human rights movement? That’s the biggest turd of a mansplain ever in the HIStory of mansplaining.
Every woman who is consciously aware of the MRA’s and knows their attitudes regarding women knows this will happen again. It already has. Three jackasses fired at women who refused to have sex with them. This was just one day after the drive-by murders. Luckily, the women escaped.
You know what this is? This is terrorism. Yes, I wrote this before I knew there was a petition to the White House to declare Men’s Rights groups terrorist groups. Sign it here.
Progressive men are no different than the rest in my view. Yes, you can have good discussions and they’ll tell you they’re pro-feminist and are aware of the struggles of women but they eventually show themselves as men who are raised in a patriarchal culture, a toxic hypermasculine world where men rule and women obey. They’ll spout some bullshit about radical feminism in total ignorance. Progressive men do this nice little trick of endearing themselves to third wave feminism to keep their cred and simultaneously quote a random passage from a radical feminist devoid of context, showing me how fucking clueless they are.
The hashtag #YesAllWomen should never die. I want women from all over the world to keep that hashtag alive. I want women to tell their experiences, in real time, to the world. I want women to tweet every violation they experience at the hands of men. We have a chance to make our voices heard to a larger audience than ever before. It doesn’t matter if men listen because women WILL.
Yesterday when I was asking myself what the fuck I was doing I was really pondering how much time I devote to men. My main objective on this blog is to help women by producing information they need to keep themselves safe from these men, to let women know what’s out there.
I’ve done some good. I was able to reach out to several women who were being attacked by Men’s Rights groups. I’ve received emails from women who were targeted as well as their children who had direct experience with some of the MRA’s I’ve written about. Ultimately I want this blog to be a resource for information. I want women to know where it is so they can get informed if they’re being targeted by these violent misogynists. Tweet this blog to all your female friends. Let them know. Use every social media power you have. Shit’s about to get real.
I’m uncertain of what to do next. I’m conferring with others about the next step in how to deal with MRA’s. I will maintain this blog and I might consider some guest’s posting for those who research MRA sites and gather information on them and the women they target. I’d also like to start a list of MRA’s as a one stop go to for women so they can avoid them or take action. It will be a helluva long list but I’m determined.
Women must stick together. I don’t care if you agree with my form of feminism or not. There is common ground here : women’s safety from these misogynists who wish harm on women and who carry it out.
I don’t particularly have much in common with third wave feminists or ‘liberal’ feminists. They sometimes spout shit about radical feminism that’s nothing short of ignorant but I do know that as a radical feminist my goal is to LIBERATE women and destroy patriarchy. Those two things are intertwined. You can’t be liberated until you get rid of patriarchy.
The thing is, many liberal feminists know this and yet they still throw gibberish around about radical feminism to these MRA’s to coddle them and to let them know that they’re not like those radicals.
Listen ladies, you have to get real here. I cannot do this without you. It’s about our very lives. Men aren’t going to help you. Many of you already have had that ‘talk’ with a progressive man where you find out he’s got it all wrong when you thought he ‘got it.’
So whaddya say ladies? You want to protect yourselves or are we going to argue about theory? Backlash from entitled, woman hating men isn’t new but it’s more powerful because it reaches more jackasses than ever. It allows the jackasses to find women easier and harm them. It allows jackasses to have sites dedicated to producing the next Elliot Rodgers, Marc Lepine, George Sodini and the rest.
Think of it this way: We’re fighting for our very existence while the jackasses are doing everything in their power to kill us. Call me radical all you want, it’s just that I believe it when some jackass says he’s going to kill me, or that he’s going rape me, or that he hates me because his misogyny allows him to come up with conspiracy theories that some gynocracy is holding the poor dudebro down and in so making up these conspiracy theories from his ass he’s figured out ways to justify his hatred of women.
You see, that’s what MRA’s do. They come up with jackass paranoid theories that all women and feminists are ruining their lives so they can have some retribution that their little dudebro minds can conjure up. They take feminist language such as rape culture and use it on feminists. When a feminist professor corrected them on a comment section, the jackasses went to her University and libeled her. They put up posters all over the place calling her a rape apologist. When you see a stat cited by an MRA it’s always been funneled through the dudebro’s paranoid theory. When MRA’s claim that domestic violence is equal and women do it as much as men, they cite a few studies that have been thoroughly debunked. I’ve seen many a liberal feminist fall for this shit. I’ve seen you on comment sections ‘there thereing’ the poor menz.
Any guy who spouts MRA rhetoric is an MRA. If you find some dudebro saying shit like ‘domestic violence is equal’, ‘men are raped more’, ‘the court system favours women in custody cases’, ‘women do less time in jail than men’, radical feminist quotemines, ‘the school system is feminized,’ or any other paranoid delusion that you know as a woman goes against your experiential facts then you’re talking to an MRA. I don’t care how nice he appears to be. He’s an MRA and he’s completely wrong about what he’s talking about.
Many feminists have shown MRA’s that their paranoid delusions are just that. Delusions. Many bloggers have taken apart each and every MRA turd and shown them what the facts really are. We still need to do that, don’t get me wrong. The jackasses regularly spout these talking points to people who, as I said above, have no clue. It really does start feeling like you’re a maid, cleaning up their crap wherever they go.
We can’t keep cleaning up after them. Things need to get pro-active. I don’t know exactly what the next step is so I want to hear from you. What do you think the next steps are?