A reminder: No MRA’s will be allowed to post in this thread.
I’m a Canadian so this story is important to me but it’s one women around the world know very well. Jian Ghomeshi a Canadian tv show host on the CBC beat and sexually harassed women at work. Outside work he continued his pattern of going on dates with women where he’d beat them and sexually violate them.
So far NINE women have come forward to expose this male predator who was given protection since the 1980’s while he was at University. Everyone knew about this male predator but either nobody would listen to women when they spoke up or women, knowing they’d be harassed for naming a male predator, kept silent. THAT is fucking rape culture.
CBC, the broadcasting company that employed him, turned a blind eye to his abuse of women because he had a successful show and of course, men don’t tattle on other men especially when money is more important than the humanity of women. That’s patriarchal capitalism for ya. Oh I remember now. Fuck you CBC.
When the first few women came out about a week ago telling their stories of Jian Ghomeshi hitting them in the head and ramming his fingers in them without consent, men and women took to Twitter to harass and victim blame them. As each new woman came out, the victim blamers, mostly men, got silent. No apologies were issued to the women harassed. Do you really expect misogynist males to apologize for male privilege?
What I’ve noticed is that now lots of men are using the hashtag to express their disgust at Jian Ghomeshi. I don’t think most of them are angry about what he did. I think they’re just feeling a bit guilty. One man asked ‘Is there a little Jian Ghomeshi in every man?’
You know how I’d answer that question, a resounding YES.
In fact, I think there are more men tweeting about this than women. Many of them are ‘guilt tweeting’ because it was most likely their first instinct to victim blame and now they figure they better make a good show of it. Also, I think many of them wish they could’ve gotten away with what Jian did for so many decades and of course there are some that are using it to get female attention because ‘wow, look at me! I’m speaking out against male violence ladies. Give me some attention.’ Oh, and fuck you too.
I don’t trust a single man on the hashtag and I refrain from re-tweeting their tweets. I skim the tweets looking for female authoresses and disregard the men entirely. In my view they should be doing something else like going after MRA’s or the male harassers on Twitter, something else besides tweeting about Jian Ghomeshi.
This is going to spark a lot of conversation in my country for months to come and I can only hope new radical feminists will spring up like February crocuses in BC.
Jian Ghomeshi fled to the US. His response to the women coming forward was nothing more than anyone would expect from a male who gets off on beating and raping women. He took the ‘it’s just a jilted ex that did this to me’ route. He tried hiring a PR firm to help male violators regain their gentlemanly image. He was dropped by Navigator, who thought his ‘mess’ was too big.
A PR firm can’t clean this up. The only way this will get cleaned up is if we eliminate patriarchal global capitalism.
Quite frankly, the only way these kinds of institutional patriarchal crimes continue to take place is because we don’t have female majorities in key places of power. All businesses should have an over-representation of females making all the decisions. If the CBC was a female majority the first complaint against Ghomeshi would’ve resulted in a swift kick out the door.
Gunilla Eckberg knows this too. She talked about how important it was that 45% of Swedish Parliament was made up of women when developing the Nordic Model to deal with the abolition of prostitution. She said that ‘once you get Parliament 45% women the conversation immediately becomes about male violence.’
It’s the biggest elephant in the room that will not get addressed until women have the real decision making and it’s no good just having a few females in power because they’ll run up against men who will shut them down. Females must be in a majority to ever deal with this problem.
I imagine that first female CBC employee or intern walking into the office of an executive woman and telling her about Jian Ghomeshi’s battering and abusive behaviour. The executive calls in her board which is over 50% women, Ghomeshi gets fired, and a criminal record. He’s not left to continue to do this.
As usual, there are men and women who are switching the conversation theorizing about some mental defect in Ghomeshi. They’re calling him a narcissist. No. First and foremost he knew what he was doing was wrong, that’s why he hid it and that’s why he ran to the States.
Men choose to enact violence on women. Narcissism, when it comes to male perpetrators, is really just a sickness of masculinity and what is better known as male entitlement and privilege. This need to pathologize Ghomeshi is society’s way of ignoring the problem and refusing to collectively name it. Liberals do this all the time. It sucks.
We saw it with Elliot Rodger too. Instead of being a misogynist with toxic entitled masculinity he became simply a sociopath. There, case closed, and we wonder why the problem never seems to go away. It’s like treating a heart attack with antibiotics.
I will never donate to or watch the CBC again until it’s of its powerful positions are staffed with over 50% with women and they have a clear policy in place to fire males who violate staff in any way on first report. I want the language to be clear.
I don’t want slut walks to embrace sluthood. I want fucking accuracy and I want heads to roll.
It will be interesting to see if Ghomeshi is going to try and come back to Canada or if he’ll run away back to his birth country of Iran.
The women are purportedly pressing charges, some after 10 years have gone by. I wonder if the police are working backwards. Now that so many women have spoken publicly are the police now asking the women to come to them? They sure as fuck don’t do much for the individual woman who goes to them seeking help and justice.
I hope that Canadian women never stop talking about the male violence that’s done to them every day. Imagine if Canada built a war monument to all the women affected by male violence? It would cover all of fucking Ontario.
By the way, I have a good idea for the men on the Ghomeshi hashtag. Wanna do something productive? Read on.
MRA Mom Screams at Paul Elam at KSU Men’s Rights Event
This blog is dedicated to exposing men’s rights ‘activists.’ I’ve spent years, first in video form, and now a year here documenting the new backlash against women’s liberation.
The key website I monitor is A Voice for Men, run by Paul Elam, a crusty old ex-cocaine/alcohol addict who claims to have been an addictions counselor. He sometimes calls himself the ‘Happy Misogynist’ and recently cloned a domestic violence website for clicks and cash. His website is considered a hate site by the Southern Poverty Law Center in the US.
AVFM just had an event at Kennesaw State University. MRA Sage Gerard, a senior who organized the event at the Uni, is a long time member of AVFM.
The goal at AVFM is to get chapters of their hate site on campuses in North America. They’ve tried to do this in Canada as well.
AVFM is known for its’ attacks on women in Canada and the US. One time AVFM harassed and libeled Philosophy professor Adele Mercier at Queen’s University.
If Canadian men are outraged at one man they should be seething over this group.
The ‘activism’ of these groups is to solicit false information about rape and domestic violence on campus and social media and create a climate of fear for women. Many women at Kennesaw have had to ask campus security to escort them to and from their vehicles due to Sage Gerard’s presence on campus.
Many women at KSU have been recorded by Gerard and their personal information spread online in private forums. This is nothing new by AVFM. MRA’s affiliated with AVFM in Alberta have stalked women at local cafe’s near Universities with video cameras to get women’s images and then crowd source to get their personal information. It’s stored for later use.
With AVFM’s recent cloning of an anti-domestic violence website White Ribbon.ca it’s important that men who claim to give a shit about Ghomeshi to start dismantling MRA groups and getting them the fuck out of Canada.
However, I wanted to report that during the small meeting of MRA’s this past weekend on KSU the mother of Sage Gerard had some choice words for Elam during his presentation. There is no video of this yet but it does exist and Gerard says he will be uploading it. I don’t know how much he’ll actually upload. UPDATE: He uploaded it. She said Paul is doing nothing and said Elam doesn’t understand
Gerard’s mother was furious with Elam and I’m sure doesn’t like him very much for influencing her son. The important thing to remember is that while Elam does scam money from his male followers her son is doing this because he has some serious problems, and no, his mother didn’t cause them.
Mrs. Gerard accuses Paul of doing nothing for his ’cause’, seeing things in black and white, and that he’s just a ‘basher’ of women. She tried explaining why, when she was raped, she couldn’t report it. Elam and Jerry the Other, the slimy looking porno director closer to the camera, challenged her, not understanding that women get victim blamed.
Elam asked her ‘what have YOU done for men?’ which is his standard retort when anyone points out he’s just a money grubbing misogynist. She told him she raised a son but men don’t count raising of children for 18 years ‘work.’
Sage admits his mother is a feminist so it’s no surprise that she’d take offense to Elam, who writes articles explaining that women are begging to be raped and dedicating October to be ‘Bash a Violent Bitch Month.’
AVFM puts forth false statistics claiming domestic violence is ‘equal’ and that men and women are each 50% responsible for it. If you’ve read my past articles or keep up with this you know this isn’t true. Shit, ask any ER doctor what they see in a given week.
MRA’s also claim there is no rape culture and then go on to make rape jokes and wish rape on women.
Everything MRA’s rail against is a strawwoman they’ve manufactured as part of their backlash against women and feminism.
MRA groups should never be allowed to form on campuses. They are a direct threat to women and the University environment. This backlash is the latest in men’s efforts to continue to silence and abuse women for daring to speak out against the male violence done to them.
If we don’t want any more Ghomeshi’s we must name the problem accurately and then tackle it.
I want to see Canadian men doing this work. I want you to shut up about Ghomeshi because he’s only one man in a sea of millions who harasses, controls, and abuses women every damned day.