I’ll confess. My mouseling, my sweet little mouseling Cheech is gone. I don’t know where he is. I call him, I put cashew butter out for him, and he doesn’t come.
This is part of having wild mouselings as friends. You never know when they won’t show up anymore.
The good news is there is still a big ole buck wandering around in here when I sleep. I know he’s there because I’ve caught him skittering around when he thinks I’m asleep.
I’m the kind of animal carer that’s ok with not having a direct relationship. The big buck can come and go as he pleases. He’s like my little vacuum cleaner. If I drop a piece of anything he’ll come while I’m zzzz and eat it. Mice eat bugs too. I’ve seen Cheech chase a bug on the floor and eat its head off. They’ll even jump at the wall to get a bug.
This is the beauty of being nice to wild mice. It’s a beautiful symbiotic relationship. I know big buck is there and that’s all that matters. I don’t leave food out for him. Whatever I drop on the floor, as in crumbs and such, is his, and he loves to use his nose (best sense on a mouse) and find it.
I’m keeping it all real.
I’d like to share with all of you a blog I’m totally in love with. It’s run by a wonderful lesbian woman called ‘Dirt’.
She is critical of transpolitics and gender and is a great writer.
I’ve noticed many transcritical activists have started following my blog as of late. Thank you.
The whole trans thing was unknown to me until very recently. In my day to day life I’ve met and befriended MtT people. I have nothing against transpeople but like so many others who have started following me, I am critical of the entire trans industry. And that’s what it is, an industry, a patriarchal oppression.
What put me in this position of addressing the trans industry was simple things like rejecting the terms ‘TERF’ and ‘cis.’ I never made statements against transpeople. I just disagreed with those labels because as my last post has clearly stated: women are not privileged and gender is a social construction made by men to keep women subordinate.
Whenever I stated my dislike for those two terms, I was inevitably labeled as such and banned from various online spaces. This confirmed my analysis of those two terms and wham! I was now in transpolitic-land.
Many years ago, on Youtube, a MtT viciously attacked me and a small group of radical feminists for analyzing the pornography industry. We were labeled sex-negative, NIMBY’s, anti’s and a whole host of other terms. We few radfems were bullied mercilessly online. This 2 year campaign of bullying made most of us leave Youtube and/or take long breaks and coming back under new names because our videos were falsely flagged for not playing along with the male narrative that porn is healthy sexuality.
When I came across a video of a transperson angry that Vancouver had opened a woman born woman pharmacy I attempted to explain to her why this was necessary. You see, I live almost across the street from this pharmacy and I know the lay of the land here, the many aboriginal women and others who would benefit from services meant just for women, ya know the ones with female reproductive systems?
My comment to this T person was polite and kind but sure enough the trans and sex pozzies got a hold of it and called me a ‘transphobe’ for defending women’s special needs.
Those were the few experiences in the past I’ve had of being labeled a ‘transphobe’ and lately being called a ‘TERF’ because I think the term is offensive.
On Youtube I’m an outcast to those people who claim to be feminists but of course they’re not radical feminists. They’re fun liberal feminists who think misgendering someone is on par with rape, the ones who think Slutwalks are going to magically stop men from hating women who want liberation.
I had heard of the Twitter conflicts between radical feminists and transpeople. I didn’t get involved because I have enough on my plate dealing with MRA’s. I still stay out of it.
However, I can’t stay out of it completely because as a woman, it affects me. When I reject those two terms I am involved. I am saying very clearly that I, as a woman, belong to an oppressed class that has always been oppressed because of my sex and because of gender.
I hold no ill will to transpeople but I am critical of the politics. If that means I must get in woman warrior mode then that’s what it means. I will not be silent on this.
Recently, a young person took their life. Many are saying it’s because this person was trans. It’s become a political football game before the family and friends have time to mourn. I find that sad.
I suppose I’m now getting an education due to rejecting these political terms like ‘transmisogyny’ and ‘cis.’ A while back I wrote about a transperson who aligned themselves with AVFM, the misogynist hate site run by Paul Elam. Transpeople and MRA’s make strange bedfellows but when it comes to hating women, well, I’m not surprised.
That unification also confirmed by suspicion that transpolitics is driven by misogyny and specifically the fetishization of women through gender.
What also informed me that this is a fetish is the fact that most people have some sort of gender dysphoria at different times in their lives. I’ve experienced it at various times. When I was younger I thought I was missing a penis. I couldn’t understand why some had them and some did not.
I accepted my body as a I grew older but we women know it’s not as simple as that. We’re always using the male gaze, internalizing it to judge ourselves in the mirror. Now that I’m pre-meno I’m much more secure in my body. I will catch myself at times viewing myself as male would and I stop.
I think GID (gender identity disorder) is a result of patriarchy. It’s a social dis-ease that can only be corrected by annihilating gender. No amount of surgeries and hormones is going to change your sex. A vagina is a vagina is a vagina. It’s not a hole. Viewing it as a hole is a patriarchal concept built around male sexual satisfaction. That’s why porn addled men see women as a collection of holes. When a male has surgery he doesn’t get a vagina. He gets a hole. And that’s what he wants because that’s how he conceptualizes it, fetishizes it.
I will never see a MtT as a woman. It’s not out of hatred or a phobia. There’s a very reasonable explanation for why: gender socialization and biology. The comment I reposted a few days ago succinctly sums up my position.
None of this means I hate transpeople or I wish them harm. It means I recognize patriarchy and the status of women within this system. It means I’m a feminist. It means I’m honouring my lived experience as a woman, born into this caste and socialized into this caste. It means I recognize the root(s) of women’s oppression.
The sudden silencing and hatred that’s happened to me because I reject gender confirms my experience as a woman. The result of pointing out male violence is more male violence. Every woman knows what a simple equation that is.
I’ve seen the hatred and violent threats that women who are critical of transpolitics receive. You can sense the male socialization oozing out of them. When I read these threats I say to myself ‘This person is not a woman.’
Finally, to any transperson reading this blog: I wish you no harm. Your politics are not mine. If you still want to threaten me after that then you’ll just be making yourself look bad and further confirming what I and my sisters have known all along.
This blog is a safe space for women.