I often read MRA material to get the root problems of masculinity and how men behave. Sometimes I read something that is so indicative of feminist theory about toxic masculinity that I have to share it.
On a post about Nikki Gemmell, Australian feminist author of an article that MRA’s shit themselves over, Jim Muldoon wrote a piece on AVFM that gave me a birds eye view into how men view women and the rest of the world.
We are all used to the various evopsych theories that MRA’s either make up or use to mansplain their hatred of women and feminists. Here, Muldoon gives us a glimpse into toxic masculinity:
Being social animals, we are constantly looking for signs of where we stand with the other humans in our midst. We check for signs of aggression, acceptance, competition, intimacy, respect, challenge, fear, relaxation, panic and more. Our hierarchical structures are complex, and depend on context. All of which is constantly being re-assessed in real time while we look for allies and potential threats.
This is taken right from his ass since he quite apparently knows nothing about social psychology but it is a glimpse into how men view the world, and especially women.
I highlighted the important words in red. Notice the entire brainfart revolves around where someone stands or where someone is in the hierarchy. This is because men are raised to put everything into a hierarchy and we know that women are low down on this list. But what strikes me is how men view the public sphere. It’s not a cooperative action but one of adversity and threats.
It seems that men think the public is something they must be aggressive with, must show their place to others. This theme is never to breed cooperation because it’s all about where you are on the hierarchy.
Is it any wonder that men harass women in public? When we look at this in terms of how men treat women they don’t know in public it all begins to make some sense, especially since we know what men do to women if we don’t accept the street harassment.
Women are below men in the male mind. When a man street harasses a woman he’s not necessarily doing it because he’s attracted to her. He’s doing it to control and exercise dominance. This is why men harm and even murder women who don’t respond with a smile to their harassment. Women are supposed to accept male control in public.
One thing Justin Trottier of CAFE Centre for Men and Families got right about street harassment is the element of powerlessness that men feel in public. Since men are always thinking about hierarchy, aggression and control they treat the public sphere as a smorgasbord of women they can exercise their control over. Men who street harass probably don’t control many people in their private sphere so they go to the street to enforce male power and they use women they don’t know to make them feel powerful. Men who street harass are simply feeding their powerlessness with power. They know the hierarchy places women on the bottom. This is why dudes don’t street harass other dudes.
Men expect women to capitulate to their harassment because this is all part of feeling like a ‘man in control.’ Women know that this isn’t about attraction. Attraction is the male justification for their need for dominance and control over women. It’s an excuse.
It reminds me of the viral video of the woman who recorded 10 hours of street harassment. Men instantly justified the harassment by focusing on her jeans. If it wasn’t her jeans it would’ve been anything else. We know women in burqas are street harassed and raped. It’s not about what she’s wearing. It’s about the male need for control.
The objections to this video were that it was minority men who were predominantly featured. Some called the video racist. Why do you think the majority of street harassers were minority men given the theory of control and dominance I’ve presented? It should be obvious. Minority men have less power than white males, by patriarchy, which is inherently racist due to the male need to put people in hierarchies. Is it any wonder that in 10 hours the majority of male street harassers were minority men?
This is not to say white males don’t street harass. They most certainly do. Every woman who goes out in public knows this but we can clearly now understand why males that are further down on the hierarchy ladder did this more often in the video.
The website ‘Stop Street Harassment’ gives us some statistics. One of the first studies of street harassment showed that of 293 women, ALL of them were harmed by males. Of 12,000 women in Canada, over 80% were harmed by males. There are many others and the statistics are all the same. In most cases almost all women are harassed by men in public.
If you always want to know where you stand, as in Muldoon’s critical observation of male psychology, it makes sense that the most pathetic and powerless males are the ones that use the public sphere as a way to feel powerful. They pick on women, all women, because men view us as less than, a means to an end.
Remember the post I did on the man-stabbing dress? I don’t think this dress would do a bit of good although it was a great image of the kind of protection women need. I like to imagine that wearing a side arm would make a difference. Just as a burqa doesn’t prevent rape neither does a dress or a weapon.
I hope in our age of technology we can find a way to protect women from predatory males because it seems that nobody has taken much of an interest in raising boys properly. There are tiny cameras a woman can wear that will record male predators. I think we might need to legislate this because men aren’t changing. Maybe with a huge fine they’ll understand it?
It’s a shame we have to legislate things like this. Male behaviour demands it. If men cannot learn to behave in public then we have no choice.
UPDATE: It seems MRA’s are hopping mad at this post and they’ve swamped my comments with inane retorts. Of course, I’ll only publish their comments with edits and probably won’t publish most of them since none of them are on topic. So far, none of the comments relate to this post and are just adhoms and straw. One of them was a ‘not all men’ comment that I totally laughed at. If you’re going to try to comment dudes, at least try to stay on topic. If your small brains can’t even do that then don’t even bother. But you will bother because you have no lives and nothing better to do than spew justifications for harming women.