Paul Elam has launched a new site called An Ear For Men. He’s offering ‘counseling’ services for $90/hour with several categories such as addictions, anxiety, and anger management. Women aren’t allowed at the site although Tara Palmatier, the counselor who thinks women suffer from ‘golden uterus syndrome,’ will be working with him. It would be interesting as to how he got credentials to do this legally. He says he’s going to do Skype calls with men and charge them for it.
We know what this is. It’s another money grab for Paul Elam and his sidekick Palmatier. A Voice for Men hasn’t done well in the past year and so he’s had to rebrand himself with yet another service. Food recipies with misogynist titles just aren’t doing it for him.
His new site features a piece he wrote titled ‘How We Kill Johnny.’ It tells of a man who murdered ‘a little girl he was married to’ and took his own life after finding her in bed with another man whom he also shot but survived. Perfect introduction for violent males.
This short story, which you can tell is Elam’s work, is a reflection of at least one of his many marriages. If you remember, one of his ex-wives was contacted for the Buzzfeed story and she refused saying that Elam will ‘retaliate against her if she does‘ and also said ‘I never want to have any contact with him ever again, ever.‘ Elam also stated that one of his wives was cheating on him while he was out getting arrested for drugs and alcohol and finally, child support.
Intererstingly, Elam’s story about Johnny expresses his hatred of working with women in the counseling field, specifically a woman he named Camille. He expresses rage at Camille, the woman who phoned him to tell him of Johnny’s violence. He rages that women shouldn’t be allowed to break up with their male partners which is odd since he’s the one that can’t keep a relationship to save his life.
79% of all suicides are men. Yet all this has been rewritten with misandric ink. It has been revised by scholars who tell us men are bad, by psychologists whose main field of work seems to be recommending divorce, complete with male scapegoat, as a cure all for women for whatever petty dissatisfactions they feel about their mates.
Elam praises the men who’ve murdered women and others and themselves as if it was women’s fault they murder and terrorize others. He idolizes Thomas Ball’s suicide making him a martyr for men everywhere. It’s not toxic masculinity that teaches men to view women as objects of ownership, it’s just ‘manly pain.’
When you see the story on the evening news about a man who set himself ablaze outside a family court, ask yourself what kind of pain could drive someone to cure it with fire? When you read in the newspaper about the man who holed up in his house with a gun and his children, threatening to take them all out, ask yourself if this is just a crazy man, or a man driven to the brink by a pain so monstrous and devastating that even the unthinkable could become an option?
Who, after all, is putting the gun in their hands and promising them the pain will stop if they only pull the trigger?
We need Dads to teach their sons, not “how to treat a woman,” but how to hold their own with them.
Elam’s career in counseling didn’t last very long. I’m sure it was quickly noted he can’t work with others, especially with his instability and hatred of women. He writes in the story that he had ‘left’ his job when he got the call about Johnny but I suspect he was fired.
Paul has nothing to do with his life now except be loud and obnoxious on the internet. All he’s doing is selling masculinity, toxic masculinity. He even wrote about Elliot Rodger on his new site and blamed women and feminists for ‘relentlessly demand that men, even complete strangers, take care of them.’
The insistence on seeing men as benevolent protectors is Farrellesqe drivel. Feminists don’t want men to protect them because we know that ‘protect’ means ownership. This toxic masculinity that engages in doublespeak where protection is ownership is something Paul supports by calling it ‘men’s self respect.’
Elam blames women for men’s violence. That much is clear.
Tao Hsiao may not have plummeted to his death if he had had the self-respect and boundaries to leave his girlfriend at the mall after an hour, or by not going at all — refusing to indulge her childish whims. He would have been much more equipped to do that if he were not struggling so pathetically to please her. What if Tao Hsiao was someone who would not be bothered with a woman who would spend 5 hours in a mall?
He’s teaching men that in order to be respected, they must be violent and ‘hold their own.’ Paul Elam is a failed man. He’s the worst person to be giving advice, or an ear, to men.