I love animals. I watch a ton of nature shows and I adore The Dog Whisperer. I love animals because they’re completely honest and reflect your inner state. You can’t lie to them. I’ve seen plenty of episodes of the Dog Whisperer where men manhandle dogs and can’t figure out why the dog doesn’t trust them. I’ve seen men lie in front of a camera, lie to their family but they can’t lie to the family dog.
An animal, and especially a dog, will read you emotionally. They don’t care about anything else about you. If you’re an asshole they’ll let you know.
In one episode that I hadn’t seen until today, a family with a 4 y/o son decides to do a trial adoption of a small dog. They already have one large Boxer and their son picked out the small dog at the shelter for a 2 week trial period.
I wondered why the young boy picked out the small dog since the family was used to having a large dog. Then it became obvious to me. The young male waited until his parents were doing something else and went to find the dog in the back yard. He taunted the dog and was violent with the dog, kicking it. I was horrified.
I’ve never seen a small child attack a dog and start following it around to kick it. This was yet another example of male violence that was cemented in a male at four years old. The conflict was resolved by him attacking the dog and the dog was small enough for him to do just that.
It just let me know how young socialization happens and how it must be so hard for parents of male children to monitor what they watch and learn since our culture is full of the wrong messages. At FOUR years old this male has already been taught that overpowering and hurting an animal is a solution.
What was also apparent to me is that he only attacked an animal he could attack, meaning he knew which animal he could dominate physically. The family had a cat but the cat would immediately defend itself and the Boxer was just too big. The boy picked the small dog to dominate.
Truthfully, watching this made me sick.
I have a new female baby wild mouse, Babette. She loves Doritos and snuck up on my desk today to get into my cookies. I managed to catch her in the bag of cookies and transferred her to a see thru bag, rubbed her belly and let her go on my bed.