A Canadian MRA tommygilfiger takes a trip to Poland with a bunch of other males and females. They have their own bus but it’s crowded and two people have to share one seat. During a dinner outing the girls get back to the bus first so they get on first. The boys are late. The teacher tells the boys they should sit in the back of the bus. MRA has a mantrum.
So quick description, I’m 18 (M) and I’m on a trip from Canada to Poland for this teaching opportunity, and there are around 16 of us total. 5 guys and 11 girls youngest from 15 to 20. We’re visiting a well known land mark outside of the city. And were taking a small bus on for our group. We were finishing up dinner and we had to use the rest room, but the girls all finished early and went to the bus. I meet up with them first and everyone is standing outside including all the organizers which are all ladies. I get there and the organizing lady tells me in polish that us guys have to sit in the back of the bus. I didn’t know what she meant, because I didn’t see why we would have to sit I the back or it could have been a joke about us having to sit in the truck because we’re late. Which if that was a joke I would’ve been fine because I try to keep a light sense of humour, but I digress. Let me get this straight I speak both fluent polish and English. But I was confused by what she meant by that so I didn’t really know how to respond. Then the lady asked If I understood, I guess questioning a comprehension of Polish. So one of the girls translated it. I replied that I knew what she said but I didn’t understand what she meant. They told me we have to sit in the back row. And I was like why would we have to sit in the back, and I asked how many seats there are. They replied with ‘4’, but there are 5 of us. He are decently sized guys and we have to squeeze into 4 already small European seats. I told them that it wasn’t fair and why we should be uncomfortable. They said because we’re guys. And that “it’s proper etiquette”, I stated that this was sexist. And they laughed at my frustration. I felt belittled and if any of you know polish it just makes it sound more patronizing being told that. They didn’t give any logical rational reasons, all they said was that because they’re girls, we should be sitting in the back. No compromise, just that we deserve the uncomfortable position. We got on the bus and honestly it’s terrible. I’m writing this write now with my cousins arms on mine and there is a giant sweat stain on my arm from him. Not his fault, just the fruit of situation mixed with 30 degree summer weather.
Yet, the most infuriating thing has been the laughing, that even if I did say something. They laugh and if I raised it to the attention of the organizers, all the girls would think I’m being a little bitch. You know what Fuck it, I’m going to tell her and I’m going to say that it isn’t fair. I’m done with their bullshit. There were more instances of gender stereotyping and sexism, however this was one that infuriated me and I felt like I needed to rant.
I do not identify as a men’s rights activist, but I’ve been reading many many posts and I see it daily. But I can mostly deal with it but I at least try to verbally let people know. And I’m lucky that my girlfriend sees this too. So lucky that I found a girl that sees equality the same way and not just saying she deserves something because she’s a girl.
Edit: it was a very small bus. There are 18 of us and only 17 seats. Edit 2: I apologize if I was unclear, but the girls with us explicitly stated that we had to sit at the back of the bus because of the fact that were guys. And they stated that it was “proper etiquette” for guys to do that for girls. What happened was not a result of the tardiness.