This dude got in a paint scratch fender bender with a woman who he then terrorized with his aggressive attitude to the point she called the cops to settle him down. He frames a paint transfer as ‘abuse’ so it gives us a clue into his anger issues. Most of these MRA’s use ‘throwaways’ which are one time online reddit accounts so that people can’t follow their history, usually because they say sexist, racist and downright stupid shit.
<RANT> Sorry ahead of time for the rant and the throwaway. This just happened and I’m furious and sad at the same time.
A woman tried to sneak her car through a left turn against the light this morning. I had the right of way, but stopped in time when I saw her turning. She apparently still didn’t have enough room and clipped my car. Quite clearly her fault. I note her license plate (I’ve been hit and run several times before), but she pulls over.
I get out and ask her for her information. Politely. Maybe I’m a bit stern, but that’s all. She immediately tells me I’m being abusive and that she won’t give me her info. I told her I’m going to have to call the cops. I ask her once again for her info, and she tells me no, call the cops. I definitely called her some names for being so deliberately difficult.
Let me guess: he called her a bitch and a cunt. Not violent at all amirite?~HMQ
I thought she had called a friend, but when the cops arrived, they were several, and I was quickly informed I was being watched and recorded. Of course, I was standing off the side with my hands down, so I’m really surprised that this cop is talking with such hostility towards me. I haven’t even explained to him what happened yet!
He goes and talks to the woman, first, and then comes back to get my information, which, again, I’m calmly standing, holding my stuff, and waiting.
The cop tells me that the damage is minor, and I better watch myself, because this is a disturbance, not a traffic accident call, and I’ve been reported as being abusive. He tells me that the damage is minor, and I should just let it go, because of my abuse, which he’s putting in his report. He tells me I shouldn’t conduct myself that way, and tells me my personal life and business are going to suffer because of it. I’m flabbergasted, still standing there calm, but definitively agitated.
This isn’t the first time this has happened. . . .
Edited for some other dumb story that’s not relevant~HMQ
Back to the present, I tried to explain to the cop that she refused to give her information, which is a crime, and she lied about the accident, to a cop, a crime, and that she hit my car in the first place. He didn’t want to hear it. He told me to calm down, several times, even though I was just standing there, definitely agitated, but not making any wild movements, not yelling, etc.
The cop didn’t care. He was on her side, and even tried to convince me to let it go. He told me that he’s an expert in the law, and that I’m in the wrong here. I was left feeling humiliated and unrepresented. After all, I had called for help when someone hit me.
I’m so sick with anger and frustration right now. I’ve scheduled an appt with my therapist, who I’m sure will tell me that I need to work on my coping skills. Yes, that’s right, no one needs to work on telling the truth, or being nice to others. I just have to work on how well I react when abused.
The best part is that I normally drive with a dashcam but forgot it this morning. It would have been all on video.
So let’s translate this out of brolanguage and into plain honest English. He admits he called her names and was ‘definitely agitated.’ I know what he did. He got aggressive with her, called her a cunt, and she called the cops fearing male violence. Anyone who gets into a minor fender bender and then calls someone names is a violent asshole. There’s just no need for that kind of behaviour. It’s a fucking accident.
How many of you have gotten into a minor bump with another car and then got out to call the other driver names? Like none? The rational thing would be to stay calm and exchange information but not for dude. Dude has to show that woman how wrong she was and threaten her. He makes a point of saying he wasn’t ‘moving his arms’ so that means he probably was. Asshole.
He also admits he usually drives with a dashcam but forgot it that day. The question is why? Why would anyone in a first world country need a fucking dashcam? And why would you ‘forget’ the dashcam? Doesn’t the thing stay in the car? Or maybe he has road rage often so the camera is always being removed from the car to dl the vids to his computer? I think he has the video and doesn’t want to show it because it would back up her story.
He sees a therapist who he knows is going to tell him he’s the one with the problem. If you think a minor accident is somehow ‘abuse’ then you should get your DL revoked. I have a feeling this asshole takes his anger issues out on motorists.