Manshaming

The good news is:

‘I estimate (very roughly) that there are about 300 actual MHRAs in the world’ ~Paul Elam

In Paul Elam’s land of misogyny, there is no room for pussy men. He doesn’t even realize that in his latest rant, he’s attacking the one demographic he purports to stand up for: men. ‘No More Cowards, Cunts, and Concern Trolls’ is his latest rage-rant at men who criticize the scraggly-screaming deadbeat for making a mess of the men’s rights movement. It came about after he posted a Youtube video showing him and a bunch of beer-bellied geezers screaming about Jessica Valenti’s stinky vagina and chanting ‘no means no’ like a bunch of sociopaths. One must realize there is no image cleaning that can be done for these sad and obnoxious dudes. Elam’s dug himself a hole so big and so deep, there’s no way to get out of it.

Elam was so angry that his own people massively rated his video down that he made another one where he printed off many of the snarky comments and had a 45 minute temper tantrum, spitting and spluttering as he read each one and responded. He’s determined to get to the bottom of why men in his very own craptactular movement thought the video was an epic fail. I take that back. He’s never going to self-reflect and concede that those who didn’t like the video have a point. No. In his mind, the men who criticized him are fucking cowards. Such a human rights movement this is. Seriously.

Elam’s particular corner of the Manosphere cesspool isn’t unique. It’s about selling an outdated form of masculinity to them with the tacit hope of enacting violence against women online and irl. Elam’s Texas drawl is perfect for his romanticized blabbering about the times when men were men. Men, in his mind, are to be the non-pussy type. They aren’t supposed to show emotions (unless they’re enraged at women.) This might be good for a 60ish year old racist deadbeat Texan but it’s not good for young men. This is why Elam was surrounded by grandpas at a Brewery screaming about a much younger woman they can’t fuck, by pretending they wouldn’t fuck her.

Elam has a niche market. He knows men are confused about their new roles these days. He knows they might stumble on his site to try and find answers to their questions so he offers them an image of the past. This is how and why Elam was able to take advantage of so many men for so long. It’s why his coffers a few years ago were brimming and he was able to buy a new condo and an incredibly large refrigerator, probably for storing whole cows.

Another reason for Elam’s latest post is to sugar coat why his site is failing. He can’t admit he’s the biggest obstacle to his cause and so he tries to get out in front of his failure:

We will see that evidenced by a drop in traffic to this site. Sound strange? Read on, brothers and sisters.

I am not prepared to share with you every near future decision we are going to make on how to handle this, but I can tell you for sure that at some point soon comment policy is getting an overhaul and indeed access to some, a good bit actually, of site content is going to be restricted to activists.

Is this draconian? Yep. Does it risk the development of groupthink? Yep.
Those are not concerns, though, that are more important than the refinement of AVFM into a better tool of activism. Simply put, people who aren’t actually activists, even in the most minor of ways for men and boys, won’t be recognized as such and won’t have the latitude to operate here like they used to.

Elam is terrible at punctuation and grammar. UGH!

Elam says he’s getting rid of dead weight, of men who don’t do any activism (men who don’t give him money or scream at feminists online). So he’s going to attempt to re market his site to ‘the true masculine men.’ It’s a clever psychological manipulation that’s worked for him in the past. He offends their sense of manly honour and hope they take offense and hit his paypal account or promise to do violence against women. Elam shames men to get whatever he wants out of them.

And right on cue, there are men in the comment section trying to affirm their ‘manhood’ and their place. Some of them did indeed grab money out of their wallet to give it to Paul so they could still be in the man club. Elam made many comments, moreso than he does on any other article, telling these men that yes, they are true men. They in turn, shot a high five to their grandpa and promised not to cry.

  • ‘You are not an armchair supporter, in my opinion. I take it you are not a trust fund baby and that you had to go out and work for the money you donated here and HBB. To me, that is activism. It is working for the cause, giving of your time and labor. You could have easily spent that money on something else.
  • What Lucian said, bro., All monthly supporters of AVfM Education, LLC will not see so much as a hiccup. We will still enforce comment policy but as far as I am concerned you fit in quite well here.’
  • ‘frugalist and activist, in my book.’
  • ‘Not worried at all, bro.’
  • ‘You were “we” before subbing.’
  • ‘Got it, and thank you!’
  • ‘Finally got to read the whole piece. I don’t even think I could say thing that would make its reception anti-climacticNothing short of a masterpiece.”We are happy to have you here.’

What a charlatan.

Here’s an AVFM comment I found that I thought perfectly describes the ‘activism’ the MRM does:

The “activism” I do is the chairborne ranger type, mostly on the internet (though I have just finished writing the first book in a series of fiction that I hope to discuss men’s issues in a covert fashion).

As you may know, New Zealand has enacted a Law regarding harassment on the internet, that is to say the least, is retarded. I will continue to pop up in forums, using VPNs to cover me.

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14 thoughts on “Manshaming

  1. Unless he has purged his archives you will find that he does this every time he has to dip into savings to pay the rent. He threatens to deprive non paying readers access to his comment threads and other parts of the site. IIRC the raging threats have been sufficient to produce acceptable amounts of cash, so far. I am not so sure he is going to get away with it this time.

    • Yes, his desperation is getting a bit too obvious. He seems to be giving up on any sort of broad-based movement to concentrate on a small number of extraordinarily insecure marks, men who can be held in line by the threat of being called “coward” or “cunt.” It’s a pretty stale ploy.

  2. Wonder if he’ll ever just throw in the towel? Could he even make a living at anything else now? Lifting heavy objects? Working a manly-dangerous job? Fighting in a war? LOL. He sure has painted himself into a corner, huh?

  3. Lame Male Elam is quite a piece of work, isn’t he. He’s a perfect poster boy for what happens if you let anger and misogyny take over your life — it eats away at your mind and your soul. Hopefully younger men are taking note of what happens if you fall for this kind of crap — you end up as a ranting old man with no life.
    I think this new “policy” is all about money — specifically, the money he hasn’t been getting enough of lately. It’s a desperate move to hang onto the only job he knows how to do. He certainly won’t find a legitimate job where he has to interact with women as co-workers, clients, or customers. What scares me is that if AVfM fails (as seems likely), he might try to get into some sort of “counseling” racket. Put him together with a client who also has stability and anger management issues — like, say, our old pal Dan Perrins — and things probably wouldn’t end well.

    • It seems like a considerable number of aggrieved men online who post under their own names are unemployed, underemployed, or self-employed. It makes me think of Rush Limbaugh when he was at the height of his popularity. Most of his listeners had to be men who were not working in traditional offices. Playing any radio at all at a white collar workplace would be frowned on; Rush would probably get them a complaint to HR.

      Some of this I’m sure is the result of idle hands, in the case of men who are un-/underemployed, and the result of self-employed men having more leeway in saying what they want with no fear of consequences. But I also wonder how many of these men don’t work traditional jobs because they can’t hack a workplace that requires them to keep their hatred and shitty opinions to themselves.

  4. AND today’s panhandling post from Paulie Boy has thus far received 4 comments.

    I hear the sound of crickets! (“the evil feminazis have taken all my money for child support and affirmative action prevents me from finding work, but I would so totally support you Paul, if…..”).

    Uh huh.

  5. The only possible solution for this dire circumstance is for Paulie to start turning tricks…

    Oh wait…. nobody would pay for his crusty ass. Bye, bye AVFM.

    • Oh, I’m sure some pervert would pay for getting away with doing … all sorts of horrid things to him. Thing is, he knows anti-prostitution feminists are right. He knows this is not a fun job.

      On the other hand, he could become a professional dom. For gay men who like to be humiliated. He already knows how to humiliate men, so …

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