A Voice For Men’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month: ‘Insufferable Bitches On Wheels.’

It’s time for Domestic Violence Awareness month with your host A Voice for Men’s Paul Elam.

‘That’s right. Insufferable bitches on wheels.’~ Paul Elam

Elam has written a long, ragey mansplain blaming women for male violence. He thinks women can tell whether men are violent or not, when just the opposite is true.

To simplify this process I’ll sum it up the MRA position:

I’m a nice guy! Why won’t you fuck me?!

Men are incapable of doing any structural analysis, as Elam proves time and time again. He thinks domestic violence is where a woman chooses an ‘Alpha male’ because he’s good in bed, but then Elam blames her because he beats her. It’s impossible for men to be good in bed and decent human beings who don’t beat women according to men’s rights whackos. The truth is, they’re describing themselves and their failures with women.

These men are saying, in plain English, that they’re violent men. Every time the MRA’s write about domestic violence there’s an undercurrent of sexual violence. You just know these MRA’s are batterers and porn addicts.

The guys who will treat you nice don’t do a thing for you. Likely as not they would drive you right back into Mr. Smashmouth’s arms for an ass-kicking just to relieve the boredom.’ ~Paul Elam

But, I’m a nice guy!!!!!!!11111111111

‘You may have to face the fact that you need to be alone till your looks start slipping and you are willing to settle for stable over steamy. If you mature enough before you get yourself killed, you might do it.
You don’t want to deal with a violence partner? Fine, don’t sleep with abusers and don’t be an abuser. It is just that simple even if it is not that easy.’~Paul Elam
It always revolves around sex for these losers. Always.
The next part of the article deals with Elam’s personal rage at women. This is where the deadbeat drug addict and failed father comes right to the surface. His failures in life are directly reflected in his rage-outs as well as his seething anger at his mommy. I mean, he actually  writes ‘fictional’ stories about beating women up as David Futrelle discovered.
‘After we acknowledge the real, plausible victims of unidirectional, unprovoked abuse we have to talk to you ladies who wind up with a smacking after months or years of psychologically abusing and undermining a man who does not have the good sense to kick you to the curb. Too many words? OK, to you insufferable bitches.’~Paul Elam
See what I mean?
Then he perfectly describes himself and other MRA’s in the bass ackwards projection we’ve come to adore about MRA’s.
They displace all their life’s frustrations and failures, which are many, onto whoever is unfortunate enough to be yoked to them. They care about one thing and one thing only, control. And they will use shame, humiliation, family, the cops and anyone or anything else they can to acquire it.’~Paul Elam
Here’s more wish fulfillment:
Is our insufferable bitch to get an ass-kicking? Oh hell yes. In all likelihood many of them. The only benefit any of those ass-kickings will serve is to give her stories to tell about the bastards who abused her when she is with her girlfriends or on a first date with the next man she is going to drive to violence.’~Paul Elam
Now for the really odd stuff. Elam wrote that the ‘holy spirit’ invaded him and got him to write this rage splurge:
‘Upon occasion, like right now, my body and mind are invaded by the Holy Spirit.’~Paul Elam
More like a rage boner.
All kidding aside, one thing I’ve heard from many women who’ve been in relationships with violent males is that they change quickly. These men present themselves as ‘normal’ but later on they suddenly change. These women talk about the sudden personality shift in the men that are violent. In fact, this personality shift has been heavily talked about in domestic violence research. So I found it quite telling that while Elam is blaming women for not knowing their partner is violent, he is showing the very warning signs of a domestic predator.
‘…like I said the spirt is in control, not me.’~Paul Elam
He’s admitting that he has these moments where he rages, and like the typical violent man, he thinks he’s God. I truly feel for whatever woman comes in contact with him. He’s stated in the past that he has a live in girlfriend but I’m beginning to doubt this. In the Buzzfeed article they tried contacting one of his ex wives for comment and none of them would talk about him and one even said she was afraid of him.
His second wife did not respond to BuzzFeed News’ repeated requests for comment. His third wife would not speak on the record — because she believes Elam will retaliate against her if she does — other than to say: “I never want to have any contact with him ever again, ever.”~Buzzfeed
In domestic violence literature one of the red flags is this kind of ‘sudden mood swing.’ If you search Google right now for how to recognize a violent batterer, this will be high on the list.
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27 thoughts on “A Voice For Men’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month: ‘Insufferable Bitches On Wheels.’

  1. The hate oozes out of every pore. Now that his Alexa ratings are sinking like a stone it’s really taking him over. When that site finishes imploding he’s going to be a danger to anyone around him. Look what he’s done to Esmay – turned him into a sick old spittle-dribbliing rabid dog whose vocabulary has shrunk to pig, bigot, and liar. Vinczer ? he’s ruined that dude. Davison and Hembling are irrelevant hasbeens. Straughan is hiding behind the fridge. Suzy is his pimp and I don’t even think these were bad people to start with even if I didn’t like their politics.

    Never-ending gonorrhea green piss-stream of abuse. Wear a mask and latex gloves when you read that guy. To his volunteers, watch your backs. He doesn’t let go until you’re pulped.

  2. That’s a funny mental image. It expanded in my vision just now to him being completely swallowed in a diaper so that he looks almost like he’s wearing a white rabbit costume, and then I saw diarrhea gushing out of his backside and mouth until it was a shit torrent sweeping him into the Styx and straight to Hades. I guess sometimes the only thing you can do is find humor in it lest you despair completely; it’s all so f*ing horrifying.

    Add to this the gender kerfuffle segment I listened to on a taped radio show today (about the YMCA locker room policy in certain regions of Washington State) in which a buttlicker to the gender cult YMCA PR lady and the equally smarmy/condescending lawyer were careful to coddle trans feelings (as opposed to consider how females might feel) and downplay the backlash from their members in regard to men in women’s spaces…well, suffice it to say I think I’ve had enough woman-hating for today. I think I need to read my detective novel.

    P.S. I know it’s been said many times, but when you listen to these Joe Q Publics calling in or read their comments, Joe Q clearly thinks that LGB and T are all the same. I’m not gay but I still feel bad thinking about how this is going to throw everyone under the bus eventually.

  3. He likes the “Holy Spirit” that takes over him and makes him feel rage, and he enjoy what is does to him but its not him. I’m not a religious person, but I’m spiritual and believe in the power of a woman’s spiritual/creative/life giving essence. And I definitely feel that Paul Elam and many of these other MRAs are, in fact, demon possessed. I’m not being sarcastic, I honestly believe this. Pay attention to how hysterical, psychopathic and manic they become when someone simply and calmly points out the truth or simple facts to them, They scream and overreact and display borderline schizophrenic behavior. I’m definitely not here to push my beliefs on anyone who may not believe in that sort of thing or be comfortable talking about it, but with all due respect, if you pay attention to the behavior of these MRAs/serial misogynists and the things they say and admit themselves it very much points to demonic possession.

      • ah ok. Well I respect your view on it 🙂 and yes, I agree that they definitely have a complex when it comes to projecting their BS on women. I honestly wish psychologists would do an extended report on these guys, because living in a society with eons of male entitlement has turned these guys into monsters 😦

      • And alcoholism; don’t forget the booze! I think Elam has been a drunk (and drug user) for most of his life.

        I’m enjoying the latest in the Atila vs. Paulie skunk hassle. Go read it! Paul is too stupid to realize that posting this stuff will just continue to dry up the readership and the donations.

        Paul probably thinks he’s proving his innocence (I got nothin’ to hide!); stupid, stupid Paul. All that liquor has killed off so many of his braincells.

          • Yep, there’s actually been two more boy fight posts since the first and original post on the matter. However, I just looked the one for today has already been removed! Did Paul do a PWD (publish while drinking)?

          • Here’s the latest archived from Attila’s twitter. AVFM has managed to erase it everywhere else. Apparently Attila’s AVFM Editor account hadn’t been deleted yet so he went in and published this. They didn’t get it down for awhile but it’s gone now. Elam has written a response on the site threatening to ruin Attila’s future business endeavors by contacting the clients, etc.Here’s the deleted Atilla link.
            https://web.archive.org/web/20151009172146/http://www.avoiceformen.com/a-voice-for-men/the-sword-cuts-both-ways-innards-of-paul-elam-avfm-exposed/

            Attila refers several times to Elam’s alcoholism. Says he took a secret trip to Italy, with the staff thinking he’s broke. Says he’s embezzling. Looks like Attila is doxing a few people over there too.

            And now Part 2. Elam has another new article up today about the future of AVFM. He’s aborting the Mental Health network. Remember we were saying that was a good thing to do as it would keep him busy doing something else than attacking girls online for a while. But he says instead he’s going to open a new registerher.com site called childcutters or something and go after, hold yer hats, rabbis and such who do circumcisions! hahahahahaha! OMG I’m so entertained!

          • Thank you for this. A million times over. Also, I know Elam’s sitting around on his ass screaming online are over. Maybe he’ll have to get a real job. I did see the new article He’s going to attach himself to the intactivist movement and ruin it, you wait. He’ll insert himself in it and make it into a circus. He realizes it’s the ONLY issue he has any traction on and that it’s a money pot. If he cared so much about it a few years ago, he would’ve done a lot on the issue. You wait. He’s not doing this because he cares about men, he’s doing it for cash.

      • I definitely agree with you on that. Even though I respect the members of this board who may not share these views, I still maintain they come off as demonic and as you said, negative/hostile non-human souls as well. I understand they may also be mentally ill, but those misogynists and MRAs have that exact essence of those negative entities-and both of them seem both violent to the extreme as well as having self-loathing. I honestly don’t believe these MRAs/Misogynists have any real self love or even truly see themselves as superior-if they did, they wouldn’t need to be violent hateful maniacs just to prove themselves. If anything, their words and behaviors REEK of self-hatred, in my opinion.

        • Yes, in agreement to everything you say here. Also, they definitely recognize their inferiority to women – and probably to other men, as well.

          If they had any real strength or genuine power, they wouldn’t act the way they do toward women.

          And, don’t worry, you’re not alone with what you see. I see it. There’s, at least, one other poster here who has talked about seeing it – it’s something beyond the strictly physical/material plane.

          For me it’s not belief. I can’t even call it “spiritual” because it’s right here and now and it seems very physical to me. I see what I see and that’s it. I can’t deny it and neither can anyone else who has seen it.

          But, lots of people don’t see it – not exactly, even if they sense it in other ways. And, that’s okay. We don’t all perceive the world the same way. Our hearing, our vision, our other senses are not identical in their sensitivity. That’s okay.

          But, you are not alone in your perceptions. I just want you to know that.

          • thank you so much 🙂 and one good thing I can say is that I honestly believe that there will come a day where this misogyny is finally exposed and its roots are acknowledged and these violent MRAs/misogynists will finally be brought to Justice and future generation will be educated to respect women a lot more. That’s why I believe its so important that we continue to speak out and fight against this negative culture-It may be difficult to deal with and mentally/emotionally draining, but the positive result it will ultimately have is very much worth it 🙂

  4. Since, according to MRAs, women commit more intimate partner abuse than men, then by MRAs twisted logic shouldn’t men be held responsible for their own abuse at the hands of their female partners? If men don’t want to deal with a violent female partner, why do they simply not have sex with them or anger them?
    Of course, MRAs will never apply their ‘logic’ to themselves, because there is no logic in their movement.

  5. Princess Aria, while I also am not a believer in demons, I have seen that as a metaphor in Mary Daly’s book Gyn/Ecology, where she says not to try to help “possessed” men but to concentrate on helping women first, and also in a good book about male biology and psychology called The Demonic Male.

    I think you are feeling the malevolence behind the gaslighting, reversal, projection, denial and provocation on the surface, which is already bad enough..To abuse women injured by people they love and depend on, and call them bitches who deserve to be injured, seems inhuman, I know.

    • Also, their life negation. They are a destructive force working against humanity, working not only against human life, but what we could achieve without their violence and domination. One way to describe “evil” is just that.

        • Now that I agree with. Men do have an apocalyptic death drive. Look at how many of them murder their intimate partners (women) or their children and then kill themselves. Look at how they pollute the world with chemicals b/c they want power, money and control.

      • I agree. Its like they want to become as monstrous as possible and exude a deliberate lack of empathy. I would call their behavior animalistic, but I love animals and they behave, by far, more human and compassionate than these misogynists could ever hope to.

    • oh wow. I’ve never heard of Mary Daly but that book definitely sounds like one I’ll be checking out soon 🙂 and yes I agree, and the projection is out-of-control, and the sad part is they don’t even realize how obvious it is when they project their insecurities and self-hate unto us.

  6. Count me as another who believes there is something dark about these fucking tools, can actually see it in their eyes if not feel that slimey aura they have.

    And happy belated b-day and anniversary to you House Mouse Queen. Love your blog (and love you too!), can’t tell you how much you (and others here) have helped me and I will be forever grateful.

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