For the mature women in my audience, and maybe the younger women who have something truly wonderful to look forward to, lol, here is my menopausal experience, brought to you today, on my 49th birthday.
I started menstruating at 11.5 yrs old. My periods were extremely painful. I was diagnosed with dysmennorhea, which is a fancy term for painful periods. Every month I was huddled up somewhere during the first day, just wanting my mother to give me advil, and sleep.
After a few years, around 15.5, I became sexually active and my mother arranged an appointment to put me on birth control with the goal of regulating my painful periods as well as preventing pregnancy. What a smart mom eh?
I took the pill Ortho Novum 7/7/7 until I was in my early 20’s and it did help and my painful periods did not return.
When I was 29 I had a major mountain bike accident and injured my spine very badly. I had several surgeries and it was during this time that it was discovered I had inherited endometriosis from every female relative on my mother’s side. I had keyhole surgery to remove it and I had one of my ovaries cauterized because it bled too much during ovulation. It was one of those ‘fixes’ the surgeon did while she was operating.
I even got to see the VCR tape of my surgery, my ovaries, the spots of endo she removed, which was really cool.
The endo surgery helped me a lot. I was fine for many years until now, until menopause.
I’ve gone almost 3 months without a period until a few days ago. I was having ovary pain a week prior to finally menstruating that went away overnight but when I finally got the damn thing, it reminded me of being a young girl again with dysmenorrhea. The pain was overwhelming. Even a huge dose of Advil didn’t really take down the pain as much as I thought it would. For 3 days I’ve bled like a red river, which is very abnormal for me.
It is starting to slow down now but the pain of it really was overwhelming. I have heard that many women feel similar symptoms to what they felt when they first got their periods in their adolescence. I suppose I’m experiencing this as well.
I turn 49 today. I suppose that’s right on time to be having these kinds of symptoms. I’m also having horrible hot flashes and night sweats. I’m tired too.
So far I have refused to take HRT. I have heard from other women who were on HRT that they get used to it and it was hard for them to come off after the mandatory 5-year limit.
I really don’t want HRT. I do want some pain relief though. I find Advil good for most things but this time, it didn’t work as well as I wanted.
I hope this doesn’t happen again. I hope my period either stays gone and doesn’t come back or it stops being so damned painful. It’s hard not knowing when it will hit you! It’s like a guest that drops in that you can’t tolerate for more than 2 minutes. It hides, and waits until you’re feeling home-free, that you won’t get another one, and then it strikes.
If you’ve been through menopause, what was it like for you? What age did you start having symptoms?
When you get older, birthdays sort of lose their significance. You acknowledge them but you wish you were 21 again. I’m in the very middle of my life.
I planned on having an AMAA on Youtube but that won’t happen today. Moving forward I’m still thinking about what to do. I must host my own videos and pay for it and yeah, pass that onto my audience. There’s a reason I never put ads on my videos. I didn’t want to set up a Patreon. I didn’t want to do it that way.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way!