There have been some problems with certain women and while I didn’t want to drag it up, they won’t leave me alone and are bent on ruining everything I’ve worked hard to do.
Before my MenR TheProblem channel was suspended, some women were angry at another female Youtuber, Terri Strange and her co host Leah. About 7 weeks ago (can you believe this SEVEN weeks ago), Terri’s motherhood privilege videos were the subject of discussion in one of my livestreams. I actually agree with Terri’s radical feminist analysis around reproduction and I argued this in the livestream, and even mentioned it in a video I did a few days later on Transgenderism. I said that I found all the counterarguments towards Terri’s arguments and mine to be irrational. I didn’t single anyone out. Hell, I’ve made the same argument over and over again on other platforms. One of the central themes of radical feminism revolves around reproduction. Take it or leave it. Not all women agree, yes, but that is one of the central themes.
So 6 weeks go by. I keep having livestreams. I thought the Terri and Leah blaming was over and done. And for six weeks these same three women who are now accusing me of being the worst woman ever (Witchy, Lea Sotta and Sajber) came to my weekly livestreams and said absolutely nothing to me. There was plenty of opportunity for any one of them to mention this to me. Apparently, it was so important, they waited SIX weeks to confront me, in a gang of the three of them.
Last week, I made a response to Jenny Kiss. Sajber and Witchy both left comments saying that the problem behind Jenny’s original video was Terri and Leah. They were somehow responsible for Jenny’s video. Sajber left a comment saying this was all coming from Terri and Leah and so did Witchy. Witchy even blamed Terri for her subscribers attacking women. In fact, she interrupted a conversation in the comments section where another user, S Vali, was saying that she had gone over to Terri’s video and got jumped on the comment section but agreed that it’s not Terri’s responsibility if commenters leave nasty comments. I agreed with S Vali that you can’t blame Terri for the comments that show up her comment section.
It was last week when I knew that this backbiting of Leah and Terri needed a public airing. I wanted to open a livestream because I was getting concerned that Witchy and Sajber would never leave Terri alone. So to stick up for two women, I am now here being attacked by the very people who should’ve taken their complaints to Terri and Leah, who just couldn’t leave these two women out of my channel.
So I open the livestream and explain that I’m feeling pressure to hurt Terri and Leah, which I wasn’t going to do. Witchy shows up and I ask her point blank if she even likes Terri and Leah, and she answers me ‘no.’ She also says she doesn’t like their presentation. So fine. I simply tell her, if you have an issue with two other female Youtubers, don’t bring it here, bring it to them. I’m not responsible for other women’s content. Isn’t that simple? Problem solved.
I left the 2 hour conversation with witchy with no other issues. That was, in my mind, the end of it. I had made a public declaration of a rule because I felt it was never going to drop until I made this rule.
Then another woman Lea Sotto, shows up on my comment section, angry about something I supposedly did SIX weeks ago. And of course, it was Terri and Leah all over again. Apparently, ME, the monster in all this, made an argument which agreed with Terri and found the counterarguments presented against one of Terri’s positions irrational.
So I asked for evidence of this. Here is the conversation:
I will repeat myself again. I AGREE with Terri’s position regarding reproduction. I stated this 7 weeks ago. I did find the counterarguments presented to be irrational and I said why. I didn’t say ‘ Lea is irrational’. I didn’t say ‘Witchy was irrational.’ I said the COUNTERARGUMENTS presented to me were irrational, not in the spirit of radical thought.
That’s not very charitable is it? To think I called individual women irrational. That never came out of my mouth.
Witchy’s comment above was said to me after I spoke to her face for 2 hours. She came back to leave that comment only hours after I spoke with her on a livestream on good terms. Then she left that bomb of a comment, I responded and she erased it and acted like nothing happened.
Now why didn’t Witchy, Lea or Sajber, who spoke to my face for 6 long weeks never mention anything about these horrible crimes six weeks ago? Your guess is as good as mine. They sat down with me, livestream after livestream and said NOTHING, until just now.
You must know that what Lea, Witchy and now Sajber are out for blood. I told Lea and Witchy, I was very clear. If you have a problem with Terri and Leah, go to them. That apparently wasn’t good enough. I sat down with her in a livestream and spoke to her and she told me point blank she didn’t like Terri and Leah. Then she said she had a problem with their presentation, Terri’s subscribers.
I told Witchy and Lea to clear out. I wasn’t going to have this kind of drama and backbiting, not just of Terri and Leah but of ME on MY channel. I wasn’t going to tolerate the hit and run, erase your nasty comments either.
But we’re not done yet. See, now Sajber, who is here now following this blog, came after me yesterday on reddit. As usual she wrote a long screed to me, that she waited until I responded and now erased. She told me I owed her the livestreams (that are now gone btw because my channel was suspended very suspiciously in one hour). She told me I was the big bad bully. Here is my response to her on reddit yesterday. Unfortunately, she waited till I responded and then erased her nasty writing to me.
That’s my response to Sajber. And of course, she erased her nasty comment to me right after I responded and that’s when I knew, she had to clear off too. If you can’t stand by what you say, then don’t say it.
An hour after Sajber erased her comment. I got another nasty PM thru reddit, from an anonymous woman, who I can only say is probably Witchy or LeaSotto. Who knows?
Here it is:
I didn’t bother responding because I don’t even know who this is.
But we’re not done yet. Sajber, after following me to reddit, leaving me a nasty comment that she then erased, followed me here and left another nasty comment, which of course, she erased.
First, she subscribed to this blog and then left a horrendous comment, which I did approve and I will reproduce in part here. I didn’t screencap it all as she erased it before I got all of it. Apparently, Sajber LOVES Terri and Leah now and she stalked my old channel of mine from 2011 that was suspended but is somehow back in business. Yes, she went digging up and stalking old channel that was suspended, where I was being attacked by pimps in the sex industry. At first I thought it was someone stealing my content but nope, it’s one of my OLD channels that Youtube suspended but is somehow back again that she was determined to find. How creepy and stalkerish.
So here’s Sajber’s latest attack on me. This time, I got some of it.
She admits fully she erased her nasty comment on reddit yesterday in this above post, tells me I’m mentally ill and going on an ‘anger management tour’, that I have borderline personality disorder and so forth. Oh and she likes Terri and Leah now, and that I need to get help. Uh, Ok Sajber.
In it she stuck up for a PIMP who was harassing me and other women at that time. This is how deep Sajber’s radical feminism goes apparently. She sided with the fucking PIMPS and said I was obsessed with the PIMPS.
I’m only going to say this one time. To all those women who have decided I’m the most evillest, most horrible woman in the world, don’t read my blog. Don’t subscribe to my content. Please unsubscribe Sajber the stalker. You are not welcome here.
Go do your own thing, somewhere else! Don’t stalk. You’re a stalker Sajber. I don’t want your sympathy. It’s that simple. In order to show I’m somehow mentally ill, you did ‘research’ on me and then pretended to befriend me for over a year? And then you call me mentally ill? You have a lot of nerve Sajber.
If you continually attack me and then erase it, it shows me you don’t stand by your words and you are not a person I want around. To me, that’s juvenile. I can’t tolerate that. I’ve seen too much of it in the last week.
Do not personally email me about other radical/gender critical women to try and get in some kind of personal convo with me about it. Do it publicly. Do it with a backbone.
That’s it for now. I’m knackered. I’m in menopause. I have other things to do than this juvenile, stalker nonsense.
Oh and for people wondering, what channel did Sajber stalk around to find? An old one from 2011 that was suspended (by the sex industry lobby) but that somehow Youtube put back up. It contains my responses to the pimps and their allies who were stalking me all over Youtube and offline as well. It contains origami too. It was also a channel where I was recovering from being prostituted. If you would like to see it, ask Sajber to show you. I’m sure she’ll gladly indulge you.
One last thing. If you think I liked having to drop three women from my content circle, you’re dead wrong. It was something that had to be done because I find they are not acting in good faith. Their argument that I somehow personally attacked them weeks ago is NONSENSE.
Making nasty comments, erasing them, that was all another sign to me that this was going nowhere good.
I didn’t like to do it but it had to be done. It’s not something I do lightly. It hurt me too. It made me very upset. Between the nasty comments they erased, the fact that I spoke to these women to their faces for weeks, while they harboured this incredible resentment against me, and the way they responded to me just sort of seals the deal. The way they acted after I asked them to find another space, that my channel wasn’t for this kind of drama just seals the deal really.
The stalking that I found out about today. The ‘research’ done where Sajber pretended to be friendly to me but really disliked me and ‘felt bad’ for me, and who now thinks I’m mentally ill, is just way overboard.
This is not how you treat someone. I have boundaries too you know. I’m a grown woman who doesn’t want this nonsense.
Added: Sept 24, 2018
Here’s another comment from Witchy and she wants me to publish it. She admits that the PM thru reddit above was indeed her.
I will briefly respond here to this new comment:
Out of the 3 women that did this to me, you doing it hurt me the most Witchy. We’re both hurt Witchy. What I don’t understand is why you 1) didn’t come to me weeks ago and 2) left nasty comments then erased them and 3) why you interrupted and piled-on in conversations I had with other women in order to bring up Terri and Leah and to prove some point about how bad they were?
Trust me that I feel very, very hurt. Just as much as you do. I was blindsided by you. I couldn’t figure out why you were doing what you were doing. I really couldn’t. This is why I opened a livestream and we spoke and I asked you questions point blank. After that livestream, I thought things were solved.
You came back less than 12 hours later, interrupting a conversation with LeaSotto and leaving a nasty comment, which you then erased.
If you had some issue with me weeks ago, you should’ve said something to me in a livestream. You spoke to me face to face for weeks with not a peep. Nothing.
I find that unfair and pretty immature, and I find the complaint pretty nonsensical. I just can’t have that on my channel.
But on a more personal note, I do miss you. I really like you Witchy. I think you’re a good person. I think you are very intelligent, and very well spoken person. I do care about you. I’m not raging at you. I told you point blank, to clear off and gimme some space and you did, until you left another nasty comment thru reddit.
I told someone this week that I was mourning the loss of you. I absolutely do miss you but I feel there needs to be some space and rules.
I have to have some rules on my channel/blog. I told you to your face in that livestream that there was to be no more complaints about other women’s content. If you don’t like another woman’s content, don’t watch it. Don’t bring it to my channel. Go to them.
That’s very reasonable and fair.
If you have an issue with me, don’t harbour it for weeks, speak to me face to face and work it out like adults. Don’t blindside, don’t pile-on if another woman has some issue with me, or interrupt other women’s comments to get a dig in, and don’t leave nasty comments and then erase them.
All my channel was for was to make videos about topics important to me and then to provide a space for women to discuss the issues of the day. That’s it. I make radfem/ gender crit content. I make a space. I make arguments. That’s it really. I try to keep it as simple as possible.
I do miss you though. I told you to your face I needed space. I don’t mind if you come back but there’s been quite enough of this.
End of Edit.