Most of you think I’m going to tell you a story about yet another man harassing me on the street. And you’d be right 99.9% of the time. Today I’m going to tell you about almost being hit in the face by a woman on the street.
I was hobbling down the street, on my way to the doctors, scarf on my head and my characteristic silver tuft of hair (kinda like Catherine MacKinnon’s) sticking out in the breeze. I was almost at the corner when a woman flew around it, looked me square in the eyes, and reached back for a hit. She had something red on her face which I now recognize was probably blood. She reached back and with my jaw being so traumatized I thought ‘Oh shit, here it comes!’
Then nothing.
She was muttering something under her breath that I didn’t make out but she waited until she was past me to let out that fist. I caught the air of it and exhaled. I was grateful she didn’t hit me in my jaw. I already have enough problems going on I certainly didn’t need more trauma to that area. Hell, people probably think I was hit anyway due to the fact I’ve been walking around with an ice pack on my face in broad daylight.
We have to dig deeper into this event because men’s rights activists are gonna read this and immediately start their chanting about women being just as violent as men, which simply isn’t fucking true. We have to understand context when it comes to violence.
I have to examine why this woman wanted to hit. I was just the unlucky person that came around that corner and I’m certain of that. Something had just happened to her. She actually looked like a prostituted woman and there are several where I live. In fact, her face being bloodied certainly added to that suspicion and this is where we can be certain that she was roughed up by a man just prior to seeing me. I was the smaller target she could release on without getting the beating of her life.
If she had tried hitting him, it would’ve probably been totally ineffective and that’s what we have to keep in mind. When MRA’s do their silly routine where they whine that women are equally as violent as men, you gotta just laugh at them. Being the biological determinists that they are, you gotta love how that theory goes out the window when it comes to their misogyny. Men are bigger and stronger than women on average. It doesn’t matter if a 5 foot woman tries hitting a 6 foot 2″ man. He probably won’t feel it. If he hits her, like most MRA’s wet their pants dreaming about, she WILL feel it. In fact, he’ll most likely knock her out.
So this bullshit MRA’s peddle about ‘self defense’ and ‘violent women’ is utter tripe. There’s just no way that most women can hurt most men, unless women decide to shoot the bastard or stab him in the heart, but again, that’s very rare. It’s usually men who have the weapons and if a man is a batterer AND he has a gun, the chances of him killing his wife or girlfriend just went up fourfold.
We have to keep in mind the context here too. This woman that ‘play acted’ hitting me was only doing it because of HIS violence. She was probably tired of being beaten by her pimp and saw me, a petite-bodied person that she could get away with hitting. The thing is: SHE NEVER ACTUALLY HIT ME and her punch was pretty weak too. Women have a tendency to pull their fists behind their head at an angle, not straight back to get the most strength. We just don’t learn HOW to punch properly due to gender. This is another reason why I wasn’t probably going to be too damaged even if she did catch me. It’s also why men aren’t bothered either by a punch.
Just thinking about what would’ve happened if she had made contact really put a wrench in my day. I would’ve had her arrested and charged for assault. I would’ve gone to court etc. I don’t give people a pass. If you hit me, you can be assured you’re going to jail and you will have a criminal record.
When I was much younger one woman made the mistake of hitting me in the head with a high heeled shoe. She thought she was the queen bully of the town I lived in. She was jealous that her boyfriend had eyed me up some months prior and she hid in a dark corner of a parking lot near midnight and jumped me from behind with that stupid shoe, which was so worn down the nail was sticking out of it. It did quite a lot of damage to my head in the few seconds she was on my back, and I bled out pretty bad. Luckily, I was with someone and he picked her up and off me and took me home and then to the hospital to get several stitches and criminal photographs.
Needless to say that didn’t end well for her in the long run. It just happened that the person who witnessed the whole thing, my boyfriend, was the son of a Mass State Trooper. She was fucked from start to finish.
I’ve had experiences with violence so when MRA’s quote Murray Straus I have to laugh. The point here is that while yes, I was attacked by a woman, the only guy around, my boyfriend, literally lifted her off me with one arm. Women can get into with other women but not against a man. Hell, even if two women attacked my boyfriend he could’ve easily defended himself no problem.
Murray Straus’ ‘research’, and I say that wearily, fails when it comes to context. For example, a couple are verbally arguing. He uses his larger and stronger body to block her exit. To me, that’s physical violence but Straus wouldn’t count it as such on his very simplistic, stupid scale. So he’s blocking her in and she decides to push him to try to get away from him.
OH NOES! SHE’S A VIOLENT WOMAN!
That would’ve been counted as the ‘violent act.’
He then hits her and knocks a couple of her teeth out. That’s also counted as a violent act but the point is, Straus would simply say they are equally violent when everyone knows that it’s truly him who is causing the violence because he is using his larger body to trap her and his violence caused the significant injuries. This lack of context is why Straus’ measurements and his research are utter shite.
This is why MRA’s fail so badly. This is the ‘research’ they cackle about as if it’s important. Anyone who measures domestic violence that way is going to miss the point. This is why it is crucial that libfems stop mimicking MRA rhetoric regarding domestic violence. I’ve watched libfems do this to my utter dismay. Women are not as violent as men. Not even close.
The next time you see a libfem repeat the line that ‘women are just as violent but men commit more serious injury’, please correct them. MRA’s think if they scream the same thing loud enough, that people will believe them and it’s worked in some cases. The serious DV researchers don’t take MRA’s seriously because they know they’re cherry picking the worst research on the planet but libfems, for some odd reason, are repeating it.
Mancheeze 