MRA’s are some of the most irresponsible shits ever to grace the planet. When they are about to have a paternity test, you know the test they’ve been whining about for years, they decide it’s better to leave the country and go live in Asia to avoid financially taking care of their children. These are the same assholes that hate the State for ‘taking care of baby momma’s’ while they’re flying off to foreign countries and leaving the State to care for the deadbeat’s kids.
He says he never wanted kids but sure didn’t think about that when he kept having unprotected sex. Dude is pretty dumb.
SHIT HITS FAN
Here’s where shit hits the fan, and where I need confirmation of what my options are. On a trip back home to visit my family (US, TX) I met a girl who I thought might actually come traveling with me. I spent about a month with her, and we had sex probably 6-7 times, without a condom, because she said she was on birth control, and also had cervical surgery after which the doctors told her she would not be able to bear children.
We ended up getting in a huge fight, in which I realized the way she handled things was not healthy, and the way she fought was not healthy. A lot of red flags were raised, and I decided to stop communication. I blocked her in every way I could (phone, social media, email) mostly because I DID like her and didn’t want to re-engage because it was going to be unhealthy.
She managed to get in touch to let me know she’s 9 weeks pregnant – and she wants to keep it. The last time we had sex was 7 weeks ago. However, she slept with someone else 6 weeks ago. There’s a pre-natal paternity test scheduled this week. In the process of scheduling said DNA test, she absolutely lost her shit, much like the fight we had – except worse. Threatening all kinds of legal action if I am the father, requesting I sign away parental rights, etc etc.
The thing is… before I found out about all this, I had already booked a one way ticket to South East Asia.
So here’s how I view what could happen (someone is going to say lawyer up – but I literally do not have money for this).
- Find out I’m not the father – Freedom, Maury Dance.
- She Miscarries – Freedom. (She miscarried her first pregnancy and has had cervical surgery in the past that could affect the fetus coming to term.) No Maury Dance.
- I am the father and I stay here, and she takes me for every dime (I don’t really want a part in this child’s life. I’ve never wanted children and I’m not cut out to be a father. I know this, she knows this.) I live like a homeless person paying for a child I will never see and since I don’t make any money, I’ll probably end up in jail (whcih is silly – because then she’s technically paying for me via taxes.) No Maury Dance.
- I leave the country and never come back. Change my name to “Archer”, use my 10-year valid passport to gain citizenship under a false name in a country that doesn’t have US Extradition Agreements. Also get a vasectomy.
P.S. I know not to sign away parental rights if I’m not the father. Not to go to the hospital/doctors appointsments, and not to sign anything saying I am the father (birth cert or otherwise.) And I also understand that if I don’t pay, I could face fines, revokation of licenses, renewing passports, imprisonment.
TL:DR; I might be the father of a batshit crazy fling, but I don’t have the resources to handle child support – are these my only options?
Edit: Yeah, I know I’m a fucking idiot for getting myself into this situation, and I vow I will get a vasectomy, and never have sex again because it’s possibly the biggest danger to my livelihood than anything else. I will become a master of masturbation.
Yeah, the only thing left to do is sulk off to a foreign country and leave the child financially destitute and the mother too. Excellent showing of manhood fella! You’re so fucking responsible!